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Really mad and upset, but don't think I can do anything...
So, as a bit oh history, my husband's brother and his girlfriend have had two accidental pregnancies, their son is 8 years old and their daughter is 3. Neither were planned or wanted (they didn't find out about the 2nd until it was too late for an abortion, or they'd have had one). This is not unusual, I suppose.
I don't have much to do with them, as hubby is too embarassed to take me round there, he says their home is disgusting. His brother doesn't work, so stays at home playing computer games while his daughter entertains herself. He smokes, drinks nothing but Dr Pepper, spits on the floor ad never cleans up his mess. Sometimes he stays up all night, so can't be bothered to take his eldest to school. (thats apart from the fact that he can't, legally drive, but does anyway). His girlfriend works full time and then comes home to do all the household chores, while he plays on computer.
Anyway, the most recent development is when my hubby went round there yesterday, his niece comes downstairs saying she has found a caterpillar. Thinking it was a game, he holds out his hand and she gives him a maggott!!!! Yes, a maggott. He went upstairs on the pretence of using the toilet and found a patch on the carpet with the brown maggott larvae on it. I mean, thats just fouler than I can possibly imagine. These children are so sweet and have no parenting. How can they live in a house infested with maggotts?!?!
We've offered to take the children camping with us, as they've never been away or even seen the sea. But they refused. I'm tempted to call social services. But it seems so extreme.
I don't have much to do with them, as hubby is too embarassed to take me round there, he says their home is disgusting. His brother doesn't work, so stays at home playing computer games while his daughter entertains herself. He smokes, drinks nothing but Dr Pepper, spits on the floor ad never cleans up his mess. Sometimes he stays up all night, so can't be bothered to take his eldest to school. (thats apart from the fact that he can't, legally drive, but does anyway). His girlfriend works full time and then comes home to do all the household chores, while he plays on computer.
Anyway, the most recent development is when my hubby went round there yesterday, his niece comes downstairs saying she has found a caterpillar. Thinking it was a game, he holds out his hand and she gives him a maggott!!!! Yes, a maggott. He went upstairs on the pretence of using the toilet and found a patch on the carpet with the brown maggott larvae on it. I mean, thats just fouler than I can possibly imagine. These children are so sweet and have no parenting. How can they live in a house infested with maggotts?!?!
We've offered to take the children camping with us, as they've never been away or even seen the sea. But they refused. I'm tempted to call social services. But it seems so extreme.
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Incidentally, you def can report to the dvla if he's driving without licence/insurance/a ban... That def is anonymous.
Poor kids.
Guy at work moaning on Friday about his "stupid b***h wife" has gone and got pregnant again. Apparently he can't be bothered (not the word he used) with all the crying again. Less bad, but also touching eh?...
I feel for the girlfriend too, as she seems to have taken responsibility now, works really hard and does her best with the kids, but is fighting a losing battle against her layabout waste-of-space boyfriend. My MIL has asked her why she puts up with it, but she just broke down in tears. We have a suspicion that he is threatening or violent towards her. The more I write down, the more I feel I should do something.
These kids need to b looked after properly.
Too many people don't report people like this and it's the kids that suffer and something could happen to the kids.
I'd say do it and don't feel guilty about it. If they have nothing to hide then it shouldn't b a problem.
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Its just so alien to me why anyone would not want the best for their children. Wouldn't you jump at the chance for them to go camping with their Aunty and Uncle, or just to go out to the park instead of staying in all day, playing on, or watching others play on computer games. I worry that the eldest is already lost to the "evil xbox" and is always online playing on unsuitable fighting games. Last time hubby was there, the little girl got told off for playing with him because she was messing about.
Its a very weird situation and knowing about hubby's family and upbringing really makes me appreciate how lucky I am. Hubby has turned out alright (has a bit of a chip on his shoulder and doesn't always appreciate delicate issues!)despite his tumultuous upbringing. I'm so lucky to have such supportive and caring parents.
i feel so sorry for those kiddies, how is it fair that they are living a life like that. I would def ring social services! I understand that its a crap situation for you to be in but you have to think that if the situation worsened and something happened to those kiddies and you could have helped them ...?
know it sounds a bit full on but i just feel they at least deserve a chance of being helped. it all sounds suspicious to me. why can't you take them camping, are the parents afraid that the children might tell you stuff?? or you might see things on them, did you say he was violent?? sounds like the mum needs help too, if your MIL has tried to talk to her but she broke down maybe stuff is happening to her.
i really do feel for you tho, its not a nice situation for you to be in but if it was me i would definitly make the call xxxx