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Telling Work
Hi ladies
How many people have told work? Or when do you plan to tell them.
This is my first pregnancy and i am very nervous about uttering a word before 12 weeks, as you can imagine, however my work are trying to get me to take on more staff and arranging big changes, my boss would be really annoyed if he knew i was pregnant and hadnt said
However he is also the kind of person that would struggle to keep it confidential. I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place!
Any advice i am now 9+3 and havent had my letter yet for my 12 week scan :?
xx
How many people have told work? Or when do you plan to tell them.
This is my first pregnancy and i am very nervous about uttering a word before 12 weeks, as you can imagine, however my work are trying to get me to take on more staff and arranging big changes, my boss would be really annoyed if he knew i was pregnant and hadnt said
However he is also the kind of person that would struggle to keep it confidential. I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place!
Any advice i am now 9+3 and havent had my letter yet for my 12 week scan :?
xx
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annie
I'm not telling my big bosses or HR until after Christmas, unless it becomes obvious! I'll be off for Christmas at 20 weeks. I've only been back from maternity for nearly 2 months so don;t fancy the raised eyebrows until necessary!
It is a weight off your shoulders to tell them, my advise would be to just say. At the end of the day women have babies all the time in companies, and (for me anyway) work is a very small part of your life, your baby will be the biggest part for a long time now. You almost have to adpot a bit of a selfish attitude and think, bugger them!
On the other hand I can completely understand you not wanting to play the baby card yet if this is your first. (I'd already had my first child last year so they knew I may well still be in the baby making zone when I had my miscarriage!) I was notified of redundancy 7 days before I found out about my first pregnancy and I didn't tell a soul until I had applied for one of the new jobs and got it a few months later. I then declared my position a week after starting the new job. I felt guilty for "leading them on" but my priority was keeping my job and I felt more comfortable not declaring it until my employment situation was resolved.
You do what feels best for you, I don't think there's any correct answer to this, it's very subjective and very personal.
this time i told my immediate manager at 8 weeks and again will try and wait until the scan to tell everyone else but the news has started leaking out to other friends outside of work so we'll see. I think it is helpful for work to know so that they can be understanding if you are feeling rough.
Also my midwife pointed out it was useful for someone at work to know so that if for example you passed out and fell down the stairs and had to call an ambulance or doctor, that person wuold be able to tell the medical staff you were pregnant