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Finding new positions as your baby gets bigger and heavier! ;o)
Hi,
My little boy is now 5 weeks old and a whopping 12lbs now!
I'm starting to find it more difficult to find a position that is comfortable and works because he's starting to get too heavy for my to hold up for a whole feed, just in my arms.
I'm tending to lean back onto cushions at home which means he is resting more on my tummy which is fine but when I'm out and about and sitting more upright (and no cushions etc to hand) I'm not sure what I can do. Presumably I can try to roll up some of his blankets and pop them under him but we're currently using the cross over hold and my arm is struggling to cross over him because the length of him is increasing.
We were starting to get a bit lazy with the latch so I'm quite strict on holding him in this position now to make sure he gets on so I'm not sure that I can just not use this arm as it helps him get the right position but is there a different position/technique you've found useful as baby gets bigger?
I know there is the cradle hold which is similar but I'm not sure if there is a best/fail-safe method of getting them on like this?
Perhaps I should pop back to the bf drop in to ask their advice but I'll need to wait until I'm able to drive again.
My little boy is now 5 weeks old and a whopping 12lbs now!
I'm starting to find it more difficult to find a position that is comfortable and works because he's starting to get too heavy for my to hold up for a whole feed, just in my arms.
I'm tending to lean back onto cushions at home which means he is resting more on my tummy which is fine but when I'm out and about and sitting more upright (and no cushions etc to hand) I'm not sure what I can do. Presumably I can try to roll up some of his blankets and pop them under him but we're currently using the cross over hold and my arm is struggling to cross over him because the length of him is increasing.
We were starting to get a bit lazy with the latch so I'm quite strict on holding him in this position now to make sure he gets on so I'm not sure that I can just not use this arm as it helps him get the right position but is there a different position/technique you've found useful as baby gets bigger?
I know there is the cradle hold which is similar but I'm not sure if there is a best/fail-safe method of getting them on like this?
Perhaps I should pop back to the bf drop in to ask their advice but I'll need to wait until I'm able to drive again.
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i found some widgey type pillows on an american website which fold in half and make for easy transporting around, they also have a privacy curtain on each side to pin to you (so the baby feeds in a little tent reaching from the pillow to you). this is useful for me with the nipple shield as i struggle with subtle feeding! I havent bought one yet but think i might.
I can find out the web page if you're interested.
I often use the widgey when im just sat with him too and i did worry i wasnt learning to manage him and of course he's only going to get bigger - but my mum pointed out he will help me more as he gets older.
Connor was 8lbs15 and I'm just under 5ft4 and my Mum's babies were never bigger than 6lbs1 even 2 weeks overdue! But his Dad is 6ft and weighed 8lbs+ a week early so I'm blaming him for my giant baby
Plus Connor's head was 37.5cm (above the 95th percentile!) and Daddy's was 37cm.
The widgey pillow sounds good so I might look at one.
Piggypops I use the same position with Connor but often I don't have the strength to hold him up with one arm whilst I shape the boob/restrain his crazy hands with the other.
I'm focussing on him helping me more x
I have to say at 8 weeks henry still no nearer to helping me and growing all the time. Im sure he will be its a way off yet so you need something supportive. A blow up pillow sounds good but stressful needing time to blow it up when LO wants to feed lol
I was pushing at 5cm as Connor had a tilted head too.
I was induced with a pessary anyway for a compication but then had to have the syntocinon drip too and pushed at 10cm for 3 hours. They then wanted to use ventouse or forceps but he had gotten stuck in the birth canal so they went straight to c section.
I hope Henry's physio helps his poor neck. I wondered about seeing an osteopath for Connor as his poor head had quite a bit of a battering throughout the whole thing.
I varied my pillows a lot along the way feeding at home. at first I used a giant v pillow. then as he got bigger I found that made him a bit too high, so then I used a tiny little travel pillow under my elbow when feeding on the settee, sort of propped on the arm of the settee. Then he became too heavy, so now I used a normal bed pillow with him on top. Just keep trying lots of different props/positions, as things will constantly be changing. We're at 13months now!!