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Have I done the right thing - dummy
Just like my other dd, Mia refused a dummy when she was born. I tried it a few more times as she wanted fed constantly and when she didn't take it I didn't bother. Tbh she hasn't really needed one and she settles to sleep for the night herself without one. Lately though she has been fighting daytime sleep bigtime so by the time it gets to dinner time she is narky because she hasn't slept enough.
So this morn I could see she was getting tired but she wouldn't go down ( I generally just put her up in her basket, might have to go in a few times and do a pick up put down type thing, maybe a bit of a rock) so I tried the dummy again. She took it no prob, lay up there quietly for bout 15mins then dozed off. Now I'm having wobbles about giving it to her! I was thinking maybe I'll just give it to her if she won't settle for naps herself first, so just occasional use.The other thing is she has been sleeping pretty well, last night she went around 9-5.30, got up for a 10min feed then back down til 7.30 so I thought I could try the dummy at 5.30 to see if she will go back over without a feed then take it out if she goes back to sleep.
I'm just not sure! I don't think the hubby will be happy that I've given it to her at 10wks(hes a work) but he hasn't had to do night feeds for the last 10wks lol
So this morn I could see she was getting tired but she wouldn't go down ( I generally just put her up in her basket, might have to go in a few times and do a pick up put down type thing, maybe a bit of a rock) so I tried the dummy again. She took it no prob, lay up there quietly for bout 15mins then dozed off. Now I'm having wobbles about giving it to her! I was thinking maybe I'll just give it to her if she won't settle for naps herself first, so just occasional use.The other thing is she has been sleeping pretty well, last night she went around 9-5.30, got up for a 10min feed then back down til 7.30 so I thought I could try the dummy at 5.30 to see if she will go back over without a feed then take it out if she goes back to sleep.
I'm just not sure! I don't think the hubby will be happy that I've given it to her at 10wks(hes a work) but he hasn't had to do night feeds for the last 10wks lol
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Dummies are fine, and for the first 18 months are a real help/soother but take them away as close to the 1st birthday as possible, my mistake not worrying too much, he'll be fine when hes older etc etc and now he wont part with it..He even has to have one in the mouth and one in each hand before bed. I feel awful knowing he relies on dummys to get him to sleep-but I know plenty of children who wont go down at all so if a dummy helps then so be it. His speech is brilliant for his age and his teeth are growing well albeit a huge gap between top 2 ( from daddy!) which is quite cute
Don't panic too much, do what you feel comfortable. I envy those mums who didn't use dummies, i felt like I wasn't a good enough mother as I used them but those children may have a different type of soother.
Only advice is if she gets attached is to wean her off as soon as shes old enough to not need it/turning into a big girl
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I have ds who will be 6 in February and he sucks his thumb and we cannot get him to stop and it now starting make his teeth come forward,don't get me wrong he not as bad but wish i had used a dummy now because you can take it away.
I would do what makes you happy, and what best for you and baby.x
DS has one still at 20 months, only for naps and bed and I do wish he didn't but it's going to be a nightmare to get it off him. It's when I see 4 year olds out with them during the day that it bugs me, surely they don't need it? (sorry if anyone's 3/4 year olds have dummys, it's just my opinion.)
Your OH will have to deal with your decision, like you say, he's not the one doing 10+ weeks of night feeds! x
DS is 9 weeks old now and I introduced the dummy at four weeks old to save my nipples! He was sucking a lot for comfort so it has worked really well. He now only seems to want it when he wakes through the night (he's asleep by 8pm, wakes anywhere between 3&6 for the dummy and back to sleep til 7;30/8)
No matter what you choose, everybody has an opinion but you know what feels right for you x