feeling a bit bored :/
i know this is an awful thing to say, i really enjoy being a mummy and love my baby boy more than anything. But at 11 weeks old, im finding he suddenly doesnt want to sleep much and wants constant entertaining. On days where we have plans we're ok, but today we only went to the shops, and home for 2pm. He goes to bed at half six and its been a really long afternoon alternating between having his nappy off and kicking around, breast feeding and activity mat. This is one of several where me and him are bored, he's grizzley wanting entertaining, i dont know how to entertain him and feel fed up I tell him over and over what a beautiful boy he is and sing him songs, but tbh run out of stuff to say! i feel guilty that ive watched tv while he's grizzled on his mat (i never let him properly cry, just grizzle where he's annoyed). I love taking him to see grandparents etc as they have all this fresh excited energy with him. Everyone tells me im a good mum and i feel guilty coz they dont see the pair of us at home,me moving him around, not talking to him as much as i probably should please dont anyone think im a bad mum, he's always clean, dry, fed and is loved. Does anyone else feel the same? Tomorrow we have mums group and then off to my mums so hopefully poor LO will have a better time x
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I found Baby sensory classes great around the 12 week mark. They gave me lots of ideas for activities/songs. I also made some friends too. Maybe investigate them?
wriggly toys etc can be soooo boring.
do you have an activity arch? something with lights and noises? this was my lifesaver.
do you have a bouncy chair so u can do something and have baby watch? (i find doing + singing at the same time is always fun for babies)
its hard but you'll find out what baby enjoys and then once they can sit in bumbos and hold stufr ur away!
hang on in there, it gets easier, ur doing a fabbie job, being a mum is sometimes a bit boring xxx
Mrs DAO one of the girls at the meet ups has asked me to go to chatterbox with her on monday - which i think encourages speech developent (which i know is a long way off but i think might just be sensory development at this stage, which sounds like what you did.
rosemary we have a gym and bouncy chair - sadly both overused and now he's bored of them although will go in them sporadically. His favorite thing is being naked on the changing mat!! He had a neck injury from his birth so his head control is a little behind, 12 weeks on sunday and dying to use the bumbo and door swinger but in all honesty dont think he's quite ready. You've filled me with hope though! Yesterday he started batting toys for the first time so hopefully soon will hold things - i keep placing them in his hands to encourage him. I sing and dance a lot with him in my arms - must be funny to watch to anyone looking in from the street! Im realising that i absolutely must go somewhere every day - its not how it was in the beginning (and i know im lucky i had that time to get over the birth). I think if i aim not to be home before 1530 i can cope with entertaining him till bedtime from then. Got plans for next two days and then its the weekend...its sad to wish the time away as hes small and gorgeus and cuddly and i know it'll go quick, but dont like to see him frustrated. x
I talk to my son about really mundane things. I sort of commentate my day to him and he loves it!
We also watch tv together sometimes or go for walks and I'll tell him what's on tv or ramble off my shopping list to him. Luckily whilst they can't understand what we're saying they are very interested! Not sure how long that lasts though!
Don't beat yourself up xx
You aren't on your own in your feelings - please remember you are never on your own, you've got all us ladies to call upon any time.
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I think this is really normal! None of us can be perfect!! I think you will find as your LO becomes more able you will find him easier to entertain. Have you tried changing the hanging toys on play mat, changing mat or bouncy chair. I did this a couple of weeks ago & my LO took to one chime mobile immediately & started batting it around Since then he has started grabbing rings on toys hanging above him & all sorts. I bought a selection of hanging toys off ebay & gave them good clean & also use those rings that link together (about ??5 a pack from boots). Also my LO likes the baby books with contrasting colours, a singalong CD and baths so he has two a day To be honest we just repeat the things he likes doing and try adding in new stuff sometimes he likes it others he doesn't!
Good luck & remember you're doing fab
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P.S sometimes we also sit on the sofa watching TV or a film and LO will sleep on me awhile. This way I get a little me time.
tuliprose i do the commentating on my day thing too! Poor henry hears some total crap bless him! but its supposed to be good for them to hear your voice so i talk, tlak talk.
babyprincessuk im forcing myself to go to chatterbox group tomorrow am meeting one of the mums beforehand and i already know 3 i can call on to go for coffee - and i must. Its so much easier when we seek out company, it entertains both of us.
linds hadnt thought about the toys - just seen some clip on toys on the asda website for only ??3.50 (they always seem such a lot of money for what they are!) he's only just started to bat things and will hold them if i curl his fingers round them myself but still isnt amazingly interested. He's 12 weeks do you think he will be soon? How old is your LO?
30something good to hear from you! How are you doing? The grandparents are totally besotted with henry and when i go i breathe a sigh of relief, i know they'll be cuddling him talking to him, playing etc and i know he loves them to bits. Would hate to call on them too often but dont think thats the case at the moment. x
My LO is now 13+4 weeks and started hitting & grabbing at things about 2-3 weeks ago but I really think it's very individual. I know another mum whose LO is same age & is holding things whereas mine doesn't really hold things unless I put them in his hands! I realy think one toy really appealed to him & that got him started! I agree toys are expensive but second hand you can get some bargains - i pick stuff up in charity shops, ebay & take advantage of mothercare sale, boots 3 for 2 offers etc. One of my LO's faves is a hanging frog which cost about ??4 in boots! My health visitor said babies like toys to be swapped around so I just change things regularly.
Sounds like Henry is doing fab
Linds x
Tomorrow no plans! Eek! Have exhausted every option and been to see everyone we can think of. So going to hoover with henry in bouncy chair watching, might try door swinger, and planning a long walk and feeding in cafe on my own. At least he will see people coming in and out! I would take him swimming but not got him a swim suit yet so will order one online x
One word - Jumperoo!! Expensive but totally amazing. Keeps my little entertained for ages!xx
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I think this will be the best part of entertainment, what say?
I know, our lounge is getting rammed full of toys, book and plastic contraptions too!
My little cherub prefers to look at teh light fittings and picture on the wall. I say little, he's 72cm long at 15 weeks!!
Little H sounds like a little treasure!xx