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Finally booked a docs appointment
Going at 10am today and I am really nervous. Not sure what's making me nervous as I am pretty sure he will just send me for blood tests at this stage. We are now on our 15th month. DH has had a SA but he has to go for a retest.
I hope he doesn't just send me away in light of the needing a retest on SA. I have a horrible feeling he will because I have mentioned it before and he said to send DH if I am getting +ve OPKs.
I hope he doesn't just send me away in light of the needing a retest on SA. I have a horrible feeling he will because I have mentioned it before and he said to send DH if I am getting +ve OPKs.
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Good luck at docs today, and i hope the doc is helpful.
It was just as I said, he wouldn't refer me for even a blood test until we get the results of the SA
I was basically in there for about 3minutes to be told he wouldn't send me for anything until SA results are in and even then it will only be a blood test, nothing else as seeing as both DH and I have only ever slept with each other there won't be blocked tubes or scarring from an STD or anything. Does this sound right??? What about possible endometriosis or things like that?
He also said that we should stop trying because he is 99% sure with the stress of tying and work it won't work but if we don't want it to happen it will. This does sound like very scientific advise to me.
He seems pretty convinced if its not stress stopping us is DH but refused to discuss it with me as he is his patient. Loopy, we were told there wasn't enough of a sample to be tested. He tried again but there was no more in the pot so he didnt bother taking it in.
Do you have any other docs at your surgery that you could see next time?
Would your DH go to the doctor with you? At each appoitment me and my hubby have gone in together to discuss everything because that is what the doctor recommended.
Have you tried speaking to your hubby again? I know a few ladies on here have had the same trouble with their hubby's burying their heads in the sand but thet do seem to come around eventually when they've had time.
So sorry I can't be of anymore help hun its so frustrating isn't it we were given the same speech about trying to relax etc and I know that gives very little comfort. Sending you lots of babydust x
My hubbie has a child from a previous relationship, so I'm trying to keep positive...
Good luck to you though, hope you find the answers you need xxx
Hubby and I spoke last night and have decided to take the docs advice and have a break for a while. No more OPKs or obsessively checking the loo roll for EWCM and just go with the flow and BD when we feel like it (which isn't often due to stressful, tiring jobs, so will be making a special effort to make time for each other).
I feel ready for a break now, particularly as the doctor confirmed what I had read about not being eligible for assisted conception so it doesn't seem worth the heartache to keep trying when I don't think it will work and we can't be helped for a few more years.
DH told me to stop coming on here but I can't see that happening...
I hope the break does you the world of good and you get your BFP x
I first brought it up to a nurse at my dr's surgery when I was having a smear done that my husband and I had been trying for nearly a year and still had not conceived, she seemed suprised that we hadnt as we are only 30, and advised to make an appointment with my doctor. This i did and the doctor sent me for blood test to ensure I was ovulating, the results of this came back fine so then she referred me to the centre for reproductive medicine at my local hospital. It took a few weeks to get a first appointment and since then i have had every test under the sun, and my husband has had 2 sperm tests. All have come back clear and have another appointment with consultant this thurs to discuss options.
I know it probably just is a case of waiting and trying to relax, especially knowing there is nothing wrong.
I hope after your break you get some luck, but if not, push for those tests.
Just read your other post. I hope that it is implantation bleeding and if not, it's your month very soon.
Oh, and I forgot, he also said that trying for 15 months is "nothing". :evil: