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Help!!! Stressed about routine...any advice?
in Baby
I am a new mum and my baby is now 1 month old and from day one I have stressed about getting him into a routine. I know everyone says just go with it but I really can't help it and keep getting upset. I started to get some routine but my son now wakes up in the night 2 to 3 times and wont take a full bottle so therefore is going no longer then a few hours? I am so tired and just don't know what to try? He was born big and already weighs over 11lbs so has been a hungry baby from day 1 so I have tried changing him to hungry baby milk of a night, changed his teats to number 2s but nothings worked...any advice would be appreciated??
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im sorry hun but this sounds totally normal, he's only one month old, he can't go more than a few hours, he may not for months. his tummy has to grow yet. its not that you're doing anything wrong, new babies just need feeding every few hours. getting stressed and upset is damaging for both of you, he needs a calm mummy who can meet his needs.
i sympathise with the tiredness - my lo is 4 months old and he fed lots for a long time, he's still waking once in the night now. i feel a million dollars compared to the early days!
all i can say is rest when he does, just worry about him and lean on those around you. you're expected to be tired but it will not last forever. you really haven't much choice but to go with it, right now your LO needs the basics, food, warmth and love. as the weeks go on his stretches will get longer and he'll take more milk. as he's bottle fed i guess someone else could do a few night feeds for you? if this helps you feel better it will be better for your baby x
It wont last forever but as alfie says it is very normal, its just what babies do. If you start feeding bigger feeds etc. to get them to go longer they will just be sick
My baby is now 13 weeks and has this past week got into a routine and started sleeping for 6-8 hours at night .
Get people to help with ironing, ask them to cook for you and sleep when baby does, it will help.
Good luck x
SB x