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Husband not coping
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I'm a first time mum and my baby is 3 months old. My baby has been a bit unsettled over the past few days and has been crying alot. She's had a cold and was cranky the other week after her jags. She's ok after a cuddle and walk around most times but my husband doesn't seem to be able to cope with it and is getting annoyed at her crying. If I say anything he bites my head off and we end up arguing. He's at work all day or night, he does shifts so it's not like he's hearing it all day/night. I know my friend says that men just can't cope they way we can but I'm being to wonder if he's the only one acting like this?
I'm a first time mum and my baby is 3 months old. My baby has been a bit unsettled over the past few days and has been crying alot. She's had a cold and was cranky the other week after her jags. She's ok after a cuddle and walk around most times but my husband doesn't seem to be able to cope with it and is getting annoyed at her crying. If I say anything he bites my head off and we end up arguing. He's at work all day or night, he does shifts so it's not like he's hearing it all day/night. I know my friend says that men just can't cope they way we can but I'm being to wonder if he's the only one acting like this?
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At 3mths old baby will be experiencing growth spurts also so will likely be more unsettled. They may well also be starting to teeth becoming very dribbly & irritable, all little milestones but to a tired working OH it is these that can see their patience tested (& mine has commented often these past few weeks how he wishes he had my patience).
Remind him that baby is hard work to look after, that you too have had to be patient with the crying whilst working out what is upsetting LO & how to fix it. Remind him that sometimes all LO may need is a comforting cuddle & shush from Daddy. Also the more angry & upset he gets will only make baby more unhappy (they know when mummy & daddy are unhappy & become unhappy too). Above all else remind him that mummy & baby are greatful for the hard work he does to provide for them & love him lots. It will get easier with time. Best wishes.