aspergers and obsessions, fuel or distract?
As you know from my previous post Isaac has possible aspergers. He has an obsession with numbers and letters. Numbers in particular is a big obsession. He Will talk about them, write them etc. He finds the numbers in everything! For example scooting on a patio. He stopped on every slab and told me the number. Counting from 1 each time. Or he Will sit with a calculator doing sums for at least an hour. He can recognise numbers past 1000! And he is 3yrs 5m.
Basically do i fuel this obsession and let him play with a calculator, or playing with him and his numbers? OR do i distract him with something else?
He Will often have a tantrum if he can't do something his way.
Any advice?
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Basically do i fuel this obsession and let him play with a calculator, or playing with him and his numbers? OR do i distract him with something else?
He Will often have a tantrum if he can't do something his way.
Any advice?
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At 3, your little boy is still very young so I would be tempted to allow him to enjoy his numbers. He isnt going to understand if you try and reason with him beause of his age, plus, he may end up being gifted with maths and numbers and that is something to be celebrated rather than squashed. As he gets older you will be able to tackle his obsessions in order to help him become less reliant on them.
One of my brothers obsessions was with the supernatural, and he would talk endlessly to anyone who would listen about how vampires and zombies are real and might take over the earth. When he got to the age of about 10 my mum was able to explain that other people didnt think in the same way and certainly didnt want to hold four hour conversations about would happen if a vampire bit them! He learned (slowly) to accept this and chose to write down his ideas about vampires and zombies instead. He wrote some amazing stories, and getting his ideas out made him feel calmer. Hope this helps xx
at the moment katelyn likes to walk around a field (in same direction) each night. we all go for this walk,it isnt hurting and it keeps us all fit and her calm!
picking your battles is a very good way of putting it
I am an early years teacher in a special school and most of my class are ASD. To my way of thinking, GlitterBug's advice is right. At school we don't let the children carry out their obsessions all of the time and on demand but they do have planned times when they can if they want to. In class we have a visual timetable for the older children (by which I mean 5-6)and the younger ones (3-4) have a now and next board. So to simplify it, I might say for example "It's painting first then choosing" and have it visually on a strip with widget symbols. It's a bit different in a school setting I expect but a lot of parents do carry on with this at home eg "Car then Nanny's house then Choosing" . We do sort boards out for the parents if they ask. Personally I wouldn't let him play with numbers morning, noon and night or you will have a real battle on your hands when there are times he can't do it for whatever reason. I have seen parents in tears because they have left it too late to intervene. There's no point trying to distract him because if you lose one behaviour pattern it will just be replaced by another. Hopefully you'll have sorted it by now anyway. xXx
thanks for the replies. Well one year on Isaac's been discussed at the autism forum and has come back undiagnosed, but is being kept under review with his pediatrician.
He still has his obsessions but we pick our battles as suggested. His latest one is angry birds and he can become quite angry and upset when we tell him his session is over even with warnings. So he only plays on it as a reward now.
He is at nursery atm and he would sit all day on the computer if given chance! The teacher is fab at distracting him away.
He starts school in Sept we Will see how he gets on then! Lots of changes for him this year, moving house, school and new baby. Will be interesting to see how he copes.
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