bump envy - feeling bit down :(
feeling a bit down today as i went to a new toddler group today with my two year old and everyone seemed to be either pregnant or had a new baby finding it really hard as i can't help feeling really jealous a mum i hadn't seen for ages with a LG the same age as mine came in with her new baby and my LG went straight over and started chatting to the baby and showing him toys. made me realise how much shed love a little brother or sister and it breaks my heart. i know i probably will fall pregnant again one day but feel so sad again after today
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I had a mmc in April (also baby number two) and had to go to a baby shower the other day! There was lots of pregnant people there. . Rubbish.
Think it is totally normal. Don't feel bad for feeling how you feel!
Glad to know its not just me because i feel such a horrible selfish person. Yesterday i bumped into antoher girl from my original antenatal group with a a new baby, Ive just seen another baby announcement from a friend on Facebook and the girl I sit next to at work is about a month ahead what i would have been if I didnt have the mc Hopefully we will have our time again but just feeling a bit negative about it at the mo. Getting near the end of my first AF after the mc so hopefully I will feel better once we are trying again next week, but it seems to be going on forever
Hello devon mummy - as the others have said it is incredibly hard, no matter whether you already have one little one or not. But don't beat yourself up about it, its only natural to feel sadness at what you have lost when others or circumstances around you remind you of it. Know that your time will come and in the mean time, give yourself a huge hug. Apple xxx
BIG hugs, I totally know how you feel, my little boy is 2 and I had a mmc in april. I feel exactly the same and to make it more agonising I got a BFP this month followed immediately by an early m/c. It will happen for us all though and when it does it will be so special and we will be hugging our bumps when others are dealing with chaotic toddlers (Hopefully!) x
Absolutely, you are not alone. And I have found great comfort in the support on here...We know the physical pain that we have experienced but also continue on with the emotional side too. I have started taking folic acid again and we have started to get intimate again. Which I was really scared about. I was in the Due in Jan group and it was sad to leave. I keep telling myself that there was something wrong with our little bean and it was not meant to be. We have to remember we have other things to be happy about. There will always be someone who is worse off than you...sounds silly, but it helps me when I am feeling low.
I love this forum, because there is always someone who you can chat to who can help you out of a whole, we might be annoymous ladies, but we are here for each other.
Love to all x x
This thread has lots of feelings that are familiar to me. My son is 2, and I miscarried at 9 weeks in June...at exactly 26 days later I just got my period (my usual cycle length) so am both relieved and anxious about trying again. I know most advice now is that you don't have to wait 3 months but am in knots about whether its too soon. I feel psychologically ok about what has happened but worried that I'll somehow jinx the next attempt if my body's not ready. I also have a type of inflamatory arthritis that I am declining medication for because it intereferred with my cycle previously and my pain levels will increase again if I don't take the meds so I can't keep waiting. I know I'm really lucky to have my amazing little boy, and my sister in law had her second mmc in june also, she doesn't have any children yet so I feel worse for her. It's comforting to read that I'm not the only person with bump envy x
Thanks Devon_Mummy, I feel the same that to wait would be even harder. We originally wanted to start trying for our second baby well over a year ago but I had a borderline smear, then my arthritis meds made me stop ovulating...plus I'm nearly 38 so the clocks ticking loudly! Really hoping for good news for us all soon xxx
hi everyone, my name is Isabelle and I'm 24 and I'm married.
I need your help
Here is my conditions:
3 months ago, i got an imperfect conception and got a serious bleeding. After went to doctor and it all done.
So I keep trying to make the babies again.
So now my last period was 07 july 2012, stopped on 13 july 2012.
Although I haven't had urine test, but I was pretty sure that I was pregnant. My breast suddenly turned sensitive ( or even grow bigger ) , the nipples are so sensitive it hurts like hell even its touched by shirt. I had a back pain, feel tired all the day and even fell asleep in my office (it never happened before). That was all pregnancy's characteristics ,aren't they?? And I was really happy to know it, and I was waiting for couple days more to do the urine test to make sure.
But, suddenly yesterday night it all went wrong, I found brown spotted on my underwear, I thought it was normal.
Today morning it turned light and even red, and it was not only spotted but it much more than a spotted. I think I'm bleeding now. And now I feel cramps on my lower tummy. Is there anyone been like me before?
Is there any possibility that I'm still pregnant?
I'm so freaking stressed
Thanks. xxx
Hi Devon_mummy, thanks for your fast reply.
Sure I will keep posting my condition to you guys.
Now I'm still bleeding or I think I should've just called it period (just to make myself happy a bit) lol
Maybe later after this period I will ask for some tips of how to make a baby
Keep posted the conditions of you all please.
Because I can learn from it
Thanks and take care. xxx