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Missed miscarriage
Hi all i had my first scan last wednesday night and was told there was no heartbeat. After being left alone for a few minutes i noticed on the screen that the baby had died at 8 weeks and 2 days. I am totally devastated. I had to go to hospital yesterday fully expecting them to 'help' me out. I have to wait til next wednesday for a d & c unless it happens naturally. I cant stop crying and no matter what anyone says still feel like its my fault. Im trying to stay strong for my 8 year old and my son but my son doesnt understand. He keeps asking why cant the doctor make the babies heartbeat again. Luckily ive managed to get a scan pic to keep. So my heart goes out to all of you.xx
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Pop over to the miscarriage/ectopic support forum. THe ladies there will give you lots of advice and support.
Hope you;er ok.
xxx
Although such sad reading, it's been really comforting to know there are others like me - scared, sad, angry, disappointed - who now have somewhere to turn. Thanks for being brave enough to put it to 'paper' - it's given me the strength to consider the D&C which, like you all seem to say, will bring an end to a terrible time.
I went for my 12 week scan yesterday and was told that I had had a missed miscarriage at 7 weeks. I can't believe how a world can be turned upside down in 40 mins and how my body has made be believe up until now. Its so confusing..... this was our first time and my other half is devasted. I am now preparing myself for the next change I know that I am hold back as much emotion as I can... as I know I need to get through this next stage.
There are no words to explain how I am feeling and reading some of your articles has helped me. Will write to let you know
Take care of yourselves guys x
Surgeon said, diifferent to doctor, that it was not necessary to wait for a period before trying to get pregnant again, but I'm wondering about all the drugs swilling around in my body now (general anaesthetic & painkillers).
Any thoughts?
Thanks, O
I had a missed miscarriage, found out at the first midwife appointment - just so happened to mention that my boobs were no longer sore or swollen - they whipped me straight in for a scan and told me the baby had stopped growing at 6 weeks, 2 weeks prior to the appointment. I went in for another scan 1 week later, same information, I had the ERPC the same day.
All was fine with that, 1 week after the ERPC I passed huge clots and had really really bad cramps and then bled lightly continuously for over 3 weeks.
I still haven't had a period for 7 weeks following the ERPC and so did a pregnancy test - its positive.
What are the chances that my body still thinks its pregnant with the first pregnancy? I have had no other symptoms to say its a new one, no tender or swollen boobs, no sickness etc. I've had mood swings, but that could be because I am still so dissappointed at how the first one ended.
Thank you.
Just read your post sorry to read about your mmc and I understand how deverstated you feel has I had the same at my 12 w scan three years ago. I felt angry and empty and was such a shock as no real signs anything had gone wrong.
I was lucky to get pregnant in my 2nd cycle afterwards and all though a nervous wreck through the pregnancy I had a healthy baby girl x
I hope you get through the next few weeks as best you can x
Inka xxx
I had a missed miscarage also. Im a little confused on what to now expect. I went in for my 12 1/2 week scan just over a week ago now to find out the babys heartbeat never got started at 6 weeks. This was my husbands and mine first pregnancy and im 29 years old and we have been truley upset but have really had great support from our familys and close friends. We decided to let the miscarage happen naturally but to call the hospital if i get a fever or change my mind.
I went into hospital at 11weeks as i had light spotting, (just showing when i went to the toilet) and the hospital asked lots of questions and felt my belly and said as i have my scan in just over a week they dont see any concern to rush forward for a faster scan as that can all be normal. But now we no they were wrong! Ive now had a dead baby in my belly for nearly 8 weeks but only been spotting for the last 2-2 1/2 weeks and very few cramping for the last week. Does any one no, how long it will take to happen!!
Ive been off work for a week now and i feel i really need to get out of the house and get my life back to normal again!
Im sorry to hear so many of you have or are going through the same thing as we are and our love goes out to you x
Well I don't know where to start, my husband and I are devastated we were just about to book our 12wk scan when last Wednesday I had a small clot so we went straight to the hospital thinking I just needed a anti D injection as I have negative blood type they asked if I'm cramping or have any other signs that might mean I'm miscarrying,I said no to all there questions they sent us off for a scan .. That is when my heart hit the floor... There was no heart beat our angels heart stopped beating at 8wks and 3days.. We are gutted we had been trying for 3mths to fall pregnant but no luck as I was still breastfeeding our 18mth old so I stopped and fell pregnant straight away, we so badly wanted our angel and it is killing us both inside.. I had to have a DNC as my body was not rejecting our baby naturally and they were worried about infection, during the surgery when I was under they tried to insert the airway tube in and hit or scraped something to the point I was drowning in my blood that was in my lungs, after 40mins to stable me the surgery was done.. I'm so sore from throat to pelvis I feel like I have been beaten in the chest , not to mention so empty inside, we badly want to try again but not sure how long I have to wait till we can.. Does anyone know? But I am petrified as I don't think I can go through this again.. We just badly wanted our angel and reading everyones posts made me realise this happens alot which is scary..
Thanks for your advice I will def take it on board, I didn't really bleed much after DNC but I still have a brownish discharge still I guess that's because the OP was a wk ago today... Sorry for being gross, my mind is still racing it is just so hard.. I will be making my Dr appointment for in a few wks to get the full on check up, how soon did you get your periods does it go back to normal? Good luck with everything to and I appreciate you messaging me..
I'm so sorry to hear your story xmas eve, how heartbreaking, all this is I ve been told by the hospital that it happens for a reason and its our bodys way of saying no not a viable one, its just not fair.. I have a Dr app in 2wks as I have alot of unanswered questions about the surgery let alone to make sure all is ok. Well my fingers will be crossed for you and ur hubby...