2-3 year age gaps
Not been on here for ages, hope nobody minds me asking a question. I've been thinking recently about when to try for number 2. Number 1 is nearly 8 months old now, and I'm not ashamed to admit that I have found the first few months hard work, harder than I'd have thought, although I am now enjoying it much more. This may be partially down to circumstances (not living in ideal home to start with, going through a house move with a 6 month old) so life was a bit tricky beyond looking after a baby. The birth wasn't ideal (emergency c-section) and I was in some considerable pain for a while. I've always wanted two children, and I have an image in my mind for the future of a Christmas day with a family of four. So I'm willing to accept another 6 months of hard work to have that family. It's just a question of when to do it. I'll be 35 at the end of this year, so time isn't massively on my side. As well as that, I was diabetic when pregnant, probably will be if I get pregnant again, and I've been told that the older I am, the more likely the diabetes will affect me beyond pregnancy (i.e. the risk of developing type 2 much greater, and much more likely to get it sooner) so the earlier the better from that angle too. I'm back at work in February and I'd like a good few months of getting back into that before TTC again.
So, thinking about age gaps, I think a gap of 2-3 years would be the best way to go for me. Those of you with this sort of gap, how was it? Was dealing with a 2 year old and a baby difficult? Would you have changed it? My plan would probably be to take a sabbatical from work for a little while after a second, so I'd be a SAHM in the medium-term. Which is a bit scary!
Any words of wisdom?