Help! My daughter wants to be called a different name. Is this normal?
Hi ladies, I'm currently having a few problems with my newly turned 5 year old LG. For a long time, she has wanted to be called different names. I know a lot of little girls want to 'change' their names. It's been going on since she was about 2 and I believe it's just a phase and it always seems to come and go. She started Reception in September and we have been having issues again since then. On her first ever day of big school, she was there for just the morning. When I came to pick her up, I heard she had hurt 3 other girls including one blonde girl in her class. The mum of the blonde girl was still talking in class with her and the teachers, and I wasn't happy. She would push the little girl and follow her around, write her name like it was her own. Thankfully this phase disappeared and now they are friends! I am aware of my daughter hurting smaller children because she is jealous that they are smaller and she is obsessed with how they look and because of that, their names grow on her and she insists on being called them. It was the next week or so she left the other little girl alone. It was only after her 5th birthday that we knew about a newer girl that she hurts. She named the Baby Annabelle doll she received for her birthday the newer girls' name. She later insisted we called her the newer girl's name and as soon as I refused, she climbed up her bunk bed and started crying. I asked her if there is someone called that in her class, and she said yes. I asked for the class list and we read out lots of names and the girl's name wasn't on there, so I was like she is not in her class and she said they forgot to add the name to the list. We found out what our daughter said was not true and was told she is in the 3rd Reception class. She has even started 'stealing' things from the girl with the name and again, following her around and hurting her. At this point, I have still refused to call her the name she chose for herself and told her she is not allowed to change her name and she is her real/given name and that's it. When we take her places like soft play she even tells other children that her chosen name is her name so they will call her that! She even writes the name on plain stickers and sticks it on her uniform as they did when everyone was new, but the school refuses to call her that but a very close protective friend of my daughter does. Please help, it's getting on my nerves now. I hope it goes away by Christmas.