I have a wild 21 month old toddler and a 4 month baby just to give a picture.
He was never great at putting himself to sleep at night but when I was expecting number 2 we seemed to get into a good routine where even if he was awake for a while he would roll around quite content and for the most part we would always have him sleeping right thru normally somewhere between 630-730.
He started going to bed and instantly unzipping his sleeping bag, throwing out his sleepyhead, ripping up the sheets and now he's climbing out.
He doesn't have the language skills or sense for me to move him to a toddler bed.
To try and help with bedtime I cut out his naps and when he did fall asleep I limited the time asleep to 20 min. For a week this helped with bedtime, he would be crashing out taking his milk. The past three nights he's been up for approx 3 hours during the night and this has started a vicious cycle of trying to sleep during the day.
During his wake periods, his sister likely needs a feed so I need to bring them both down stairs so he's supervised and I've put the tv on and hes eventually fallen asleep. I know I shouldn't do this but I can't find any other way.
This week alone I've suffered two panic attacks and been put on anxiety medication as I am so highly strung.