Blending Familes ??? Am I unreasonable ???
I’ve recently given birth. The day he was born my somewhat spoilt 17 year old stepson decided to FaceTime his mother to give her first glimpse of his new brother. Although I never said anything at the time - this really hurt me as it was our first day in our new chapter in our blended family life but it still managed to be ALL about her. Stepson lives with us full time and I’m finding he FaceTimes his mother once a week & includes his newborn sibling. He is proud of his sibling & is very loving towards him.The trouble is me & I’m very uncomfortable with the ex having any involvement with my son. She has made it very difficult for me to bond with my stepson over the last ten years with her attitude & jealousy has only created additional behavioural problems for her son. Now her new hobby is to manipulate my stepson into sharing his step brother with her & it infuriates me. My stepson also wants to take his half brother to his birth mother so she can spend time with the baby. I have No problem with my stepson having a good bond with his new brother but I draw the line with his mother having any involvement partially due to how she has treated me over the years. Am I being unreasonable to expect that she should just butt out?