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why do people say mean things ?
hi ladies
just wondered why people say horrible things i visisted my moms last week and she saw one of her neighbours while we was out shopping.
my mom told her was expecting and feeling all full of joy and blooming she asked me when i was due i told her march 4th her reply to this was "god haven,t you got ages to go still why are you buying clothes something my go wrong and your not very big are you .My daughter was masssive when she was having a baby my anwee to this was oh right with shock so mom my made a quick exit
heres me thinking oh i havent go to long now lets get xmas out the way then its only 2 months really beacuse it early march .
sorry for moaning but have you had anybody say (pleasent things to you lol). Evil
just wondered why people say horrible things i visisted my moms last week and she saw one of her neighbours while we was out shopping.
my mom told her was expecting and feeling all full of joy and blooming she asked me when i was due i told her march 4th her reply to this was "god haven,t you got ages to go still why are you buying clothes something my go wrong and your not very big are you .My daughter was masssive when she was having a baby my anwee to this was oh right with shock so mom my made a quick exit
heres me thinking oh i havent go to long now lets get xmas out the way then its only 2 months really beacuse it early march .
sorry for moaning but have you had anybody say (pleasent things to you lol). Evil
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Take care
Hilary x
(I'm also an '81 mum)
People can't resist saying something. If they haven't got anything positive to say it doesn't matter just so long as they pass comment on your pregnancy! Its as if they just open their mouths and words come tumbling out without any thought as to what consequences this might have.
Honestly, just ignore 99% of the people. I'm sorry to break it to you but its only going to get worse...
When I was 36 weeks pg I went out for casual dinner with hubby & friends and the waiter looked me up and down and said, "You're not going to give birth here are you?". I just looked at my husband and kept a straight face and said,"I thought we were going to the hospital, oh well bring the towels".
Just practice some really cutting come-backs and people soon back off, LOL!
Good luck with the preg x
I know how you feel, all I want to do is to tell them to f off. Im having twins and if I get one more negative comment then I swear I will hit them. Ive now been told a 1001 times about how hard it is going to be and I know its going to be a struggle for me, but their support would be nice instead of their constant mickey taking.
Stay calm and positive Bunin the oven, they're probably only jealous xxxxxx
Debs
17+5
I know how you feel. I allowed my son to start telling people about my pregnancy at 14 weeks as he was fit to burst.. I saw my neoghbour the day after he told her and she asked how far gone I was.. I told ehr and she said oh ages to go then.. I just looked at her and phoned my mum and moaned... I was thinking that yes I was only 14 weeks but I had my sons birthday coming up then christmas and knowing what this time of year is like it will fly by then I thought I would have the sudden shock in January that xmas is out the way and I wouldnt have long to go and be having the skint post xmas blues....
Although it wasnt as bad as yours, I probably would have thumped her one if she had said that to me, but I am getting quite witty in my pregnancy and think why should I hold back on saying things.. lets face it we have the perfect excuse.. pregnancy hormones...pmsl
Least your little one is due b4 mine!!!
All the best
x x
Nothing wrong with buying stuff early - we've been buying clothes for ages and now have plenty of 0-3 months, and we got the pram ordered at around 16 weeks cause we found one on offer that we liked. Personally i'd rather get a lot of the stuff out of the way earlier on then you don't have so much to worry about as you are getting bigger.... shame I'm 32 weeks and haven't got started on the nursery yet really!!! Wish I had it all ready!!
Sal 25 wks xx
OK it wasn't planned BUT I was very excited about it, who wouldn't be? When u find out ur pg you don't stop urself getting attached to it because it's impossible. A baby's not a dog, it's part of you and a mc would be devastating anyway whether u were excited or not and whatever stage ur at!
GRRR!
Its so infuriating, and worrying when really these people should just say...oh i dont know something along the lines of "congratulations"!
I dont care what people say though, i am over the moon and as soon as i have that dating scan i will be off to Mothercare with the boyfriends cheque book and an empty car boot!!
Don't let them get you down ladies, everyone loves to tell a bad story...its all of the wonderful experiences most mothers have that never get passed on!!
xx
I play darts for a local pub team and the barmaid is due the day after me - she has such a lovely neat little but perfectly formed bump (whereas mine is quite big and really round but just as perfect) but so many people compare our sizes making me feel like a big old fatso and her inadequate - The thing is, she was a size 6 when she got pregnant and I was a 12 so we were hardly a similar size to start with, not to mention that it's her 1st baby and my 2nd!!!
Also, why are people so shocked that I want to buy some new things for my upcoming arrival? Just because I already have a lo doesn't mean the newbie should have EVERYTHING second hand does it? Ooooohhhh it makes me so mad grrrrrr.
Anyway all, I'll stop ranting now and get back to being happy and excited which feels so much better. Take care all.
some people can be just so mean, what an awful thing to say, the only comments i've had have been along the lines of god your big aren't you?
fwiw i'm also buying bay stuff started before i even reached the 12wk mark and it's not too early imo my opinion your over half way there
take care
Beckyx
22+3 wks down 17+4wks to go
know the feeling, i'm getting that all the time, did also with my others.
good comebacks though, m\ay have to use them if i'm ever feeling brave enough lol
The ironic thing was that when I was diagnosed with weak cervix at 22 weeks all I got was positive comments. And yet there I was more likely to have problems than before!