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Is this a stupid idea?!
Hi everyone
I've got a while to go yet until baby arrives (I'm 20 weeks) but you have all given me such good advice in the past I thought I'd ask you for some more!
I want this baby to have all the benefits of breast feeding, yet I dont actually want to breast feed. I dont know why but the thought of it just turns my stomach. I know this is a really selfish attitude and the milk is there for the baby but I just dont think I can do it. This is my second child and I didnt breast feed the first, I did try but she just wouldnt latch on and the midwife eventually told me to give up and give her a bottle which I did. I think one of the main reasons I dont want to breast feed is that my hubby wont get the chance to feed the baby, and I want him to feel as involved as possible. I spoke to my mother in law about it the other day and she was absolutley horrified when I said I didnt want to breast feed. I spoke to my hubby about it and he said as much as he wants the baby to have all the benefits of breast milk he also wants to be able to give the baby a bottle and be involved. So, I suggested just expressing my milk from the start. It seems like the perfect solution because then baby gets breast milk yet my hubby and 4 year old also get a chance to help with feeding too, but I've never heard of anyone else doing this before so I dont know if its just a stupid idea? But couldnt I just take my breast pump into hospital with my and start expressing right away? I'd really appreciate any feedback on this.
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I've got a while to go yet until baby arrives (I'm 20 weeks) but you have all given me such good advice in the past I thought I'd ask you for some more!
I want this baby to have all the benefits of breast feeding, yet I dont actually want to breast feed. I dont know why but the thought of it just turns my stomach. I know this is a really selfish attitude and the milk is there for the baby but I just dont think I can do it. This is my second child and I didnt breast feed the first, I did try but she just wouldnt latch on and the midwife eventually told me to give up and give her a bottle which I did. I think one of the main reasons I dont want to breast feed is that my hubby wont get the chance to feed the baby, and I want him to feel as involved as possible. I spoke to my mother in law about it the other day and she was absolutley horrified when I said I didnt want to breast feed. I spoke to my hubby about it and he said as much as he wants the baby to have all the benefits of breast milk he also wants to be able to give the baby a bottle and be involved. So, I suggested just expressing my milk from the start. It seems like the perfect solution because then baby gets breast milk yet my hubby and 4 year old also get a chance to help with feeding too, but I've never heard of anyone else doing this before so I dont know if its just a stupid idea? But couldnt I just take my breast pump into hospital with my and start expressing right away? I'd really appreciate any feedback on this.
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Hope that helped a bit
Kerry xx
A friend of mine was breastfeeding and within 2 weeks started to express quite often so that daddy and other family could feed baby etc. It put baby under a lot of stress due to changing so often between bottle and breast and her nipples were in agony from having to feed and express so much. In the end she just started bottle feeding all the time.
Personally I would quite like to try and breastfeed but I am also very aware that I don't want to do this for very long. I'm aiming for about 2-3months (possibly less), with the odd bottle of expressed milk along the way so OH can feed etc. But we all know that some babies just don't take to breast feeding and some mums don't produce enough milk so just wait and see...... S x
I'm sure when you lo arrives you'll know instantly what you want to do xx
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In terms of formula you should be ok to mix both but I wouldn't change formulas too often as it can really upset a babies delicate stomach.
Zoey - don't rely on formula to get your baby to sleep through the night. Us December 07 mums have discovered this as we have a mixture of bf, ff, and both bf and ff babies and it hasn't necessarily followed that the ff babies have slept through the night sooner. xx
I also thought that BF babies didn't get wind, reflux or colic! But after reading the posts on here, I don't think it makes a big difference, unless your baby disagrees with a certain brand of formula xxx