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tearing, episiotomies and stitches.......help
Hi ladies
im 35 weeks tomorrow and feeling fairly calm about labour however i am getting myself into a right state at the thought of having to have stitches if i was to tear or have an episiotomy,i lie in bed at night worrying and cant sleep, sometimes getting as little as 2 and a half hours sleep a night.
When expressing my concerns to my mother, instead of giving me reassuring advice she thought it was appropriate to tell me how badly she tore and was crying and screaming in pain as they had to stitch her inside and out. This is typical behaviour from my mom.
Anyway i wondered if any of you ladies have needed stitches and do they give you an anaesthetic to numb the area first? i know i may sound daft but its really stressing me out because i really hate needles.
xx ?
im 35 weeks tomorrow and feeling fairly calm about labour however i am getting myself into a right state at the thought of having to have stitches if i was to tear or have an episiotomy,i lie in bed at night worrying and cant sleep, sometimes getting as little as 2 and a half hours sleep a night.
When expressing my concerns to my mother, instead of giving me reassuring advice she thought it was appropriate to tell me how badly she tore and was crying and screaming in pain as they had to stitch her inside and out. This is typical behaviour from my mom.
Anyway i wondered if any of you ladies have needed stitches and do they give you an anaesthetic to numb the area first? i know i may sound daft but its really stressing me out because i really hate needles.
xx ?
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It's 10 years since I needed stitches, but I can assure you I was given anaesthetic before they did it and i didn't feel a thing. I also had a natural tear and didn't notice that happening, but then your mind will be on other things. Good luck, I can't wait to be in that position again, 30 weeks to go for me!! xx
I had a slight second degree tear that I didn't feel, and the injected a pain killer and I have gas and air for the stitch. It felt a bit pricky but was okay. Don't forget, you would have just given birth- you will feel invincible!!
The reality of afterwards is much better than what you would imagine it to be too. I was slightly sore and it stung a bit when I peed, and the first poo was scary, but please don't let it worry you like this as it won't be as bad as you think xx
I had a third degree tear so ended up being stitched up in theatre. The actual tearing I didn't notice happening at all - not that there isn't other pain going on in that area! I was stitched up really well and healed nicely.
It is a bit uncomfortable in the few days following labour but that's inevitable I think! And I was a bit scared about going to the loo for a number 2 but they give laxatives etc to make that as easy as possible and it's fine on your stitches, it's just mentally a bit difficult!
Good luck! I'm 34 weeks tomorrow and I won't be concerned if I end up tearing again.
MM
33+6
afterwards i didnt feel any pain down there until i went to the toilet but after the first time i lernt to have a jug near by and it wasnt so bad.
So try not to worry, i know easier said than done but dont always listen to the horror stories just tell yourself that they have a low pain threshold!!!
I found going to the loo afterwards surprisingly ok. I've had no problems from the tear or stitches - I was sore for about a week but I think that's just giving birth!
[Modified by: *Sunflower81* on February 26, 2010 02:59 PM]
Try not to worry too much hun, im sure you will be fine xxx
I'm not sure if it's standard practise but before any cuts were made i was given a local anesthetic injection in my lady bits (barely even noticed injection) and didnt feel anything at all when i was cut, if i'd not been told about it i wouldn't have had a clue it had been done.
I had over 30stitches in my bits, but again the stitches were done under local anaesthetic so didnt feel a thing, the only annoying thing about it was it took about 30mins to be stitched at which point i was desperate to hold my baby!
My stitches healed without any problems, they were sore for a few weeks but it was wasn't anything i couldn't handle, warm baths and the odd paracetamol helped. Now My bits are as normal as ever, no scarring (or non that i can notice!) and no discomfort.
I promise you the idea of it really is much worse than the reality XX
Fingers crossed you won't tear or need to be cut!
Good luck xxx
Also I didnt feel a thing when they were stitching me, just enjoy the pregnancy and stop worrying. Don't let this fear stop you from pushing!
With my second i had a tear and i didn't feel that happen, i wasn't given a pain killer while i was stiched up that time, simply cause i had my dd so quickly i was totally numb down there anyway x
Its not nice obviously but you wont care once you have given birth. Just try and put it to the back of your mind xxx
Please try not to worry, I know it's easier said than done.
Glad you have asked this as its worried me somewhat too. I'm 40 wks tmoro so hopefully it won't be long now - its nice to see that the thought of any of these things happening is worse than it really is.
I discussed it with my mw and she said the only reason people worry so much is because its your bits, if it was anywhere else it would be fine....
Although i'm worried and think if i have to choose i'd prefer a natural tear, i just keep thinking that i'm gonna be a mummy soon and try and push it to the back of my mind....good luck hun and thanks to everyone for sharing their stories xxx
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