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  • :\) lol bex... I agree it does have to be shared & open!! :\)
  • How far into ur preg are you????
    How are you managing with sex and d bump? My parnter keeps thinking he might hurt d baby,so as you can imagine it aint happening very much,much to my dismay..............
  • Was you talking to me bex? lol :\) I'm 15 weeks so have a little belly now... with the first dh used to think he would hurt the baby plus I was sick up to about 18 weeks all the time could be sick anything up to 6 times a day! then one day it just stopped so I went off sex totally. we still did stuff but no full on.. this one has been similar with the sickness so again not really a fan of sex at the mo... but this time I'm kinda more up to the thought of sex... iykwim? we still do other things and are very affectionate so I don't feel like I'm missing out too much!

    wendy xx
  • Yeah sorry was talking with you wenders. Im 28wks.Ive gained 7 kilos in tot so far,which is not 2 much and evryone tells me i hardly even look preg,but I just feel so fat! Im quite a fit person and I dance ballet so I usually like the look of my body,which effects how I feel sexually if you know what I mean. I just dont feel sexy at the moment. Rollllllllllllllllllll on March! Carnt wait to get back into shape and feel in control again.
  • lol... once I was in the middle bit & had a proper baby belly I loved it... dh even took naked photos of me when I was around 35 weeks pregnant, very demi moore!! I was about 20 weeks pregnant last time before I showed so it's nice to have a belly early on ths time!!
  • lol....................you seem a very confident person. I usually am,but im not when pregnant,just feel fat. Miss all the sexy underwear etc.....
    Got a major dilema coming up............ got a proper posh gala dinner coming up (15 jan) and I dont feel like buying something to wear just bloody once!.
    Anyways take care ya all,sighning off now its 12.33am here in Malta.
    Nighty nights
    X
  • bex I know we've gone totally off topic (sorry everyone!!) But if you get a really nice black wrap around dress it will fit around your bump but you'll also be able to wear if afterwards too... I spent ??35 on one & I've had loads of wear out of it & I'll have it for this pregnancy too! You can dress it up & down with lots of asscessories/scarfs etc.. take care xx wendy xx
  • Hi

    I have gone off sex completely too and really have to make an effort to please him in other ways i am not sure why i am feeling like this. I dont like the idea of him looking at porn when we were first togther 5yrs ago i was dead against it but i have mellowed over the yrs. I would rather him look at porn than go out there and cheat. The way i would look at it is that ur partner is trying to be understanding. if he is not hassling u for sex and he is just looking at porn for relief it sounds lik its his way of coping with not having sex with you and he probably doesnt want to nag you for it and wants to be understanding. I think sometimes you have to over look things men will be men and the most important thing is not to nag him about it as he will feel that he needs to start hiding it from you and u need to keep an open and honest relationship. Try not to worry about it. At the begining of my pregnancy we went for at least two months with nothing my husband was getting really frustrated thinking i didnt want him when it was just that i didnt want sex full stop. So i went out and bought him a porn mag and start down with him when he got in from work and explained how i was feeling and tat he had nothing to do with him and i gave him the mag and said i understood how he was feeling and he really apricated it.
    hope this helps x
  • I thought about this subject after I posted my last reply yesterday, and since then a few people have said exactly what I was thinking about when I went to bed. Like I said, I don't mind porn, I even enjoy it sometimes, but I don't like the feeling that my OH is hiding something from me, so I would far rather he was open about it. That said, I also appreciate it can be a personal thing too and something that men also like to do on their own. Maybe we should ask some of the dads on this site for their opinion on the subject?!
  • Hi kit kat
    This subject has been causing some heated debate and it got slightly sidetracked the other night,as it ended up just me n wenders talking.
    Everyone on this site has very different views on this subject. For me my sittuation was that I didnt mind if he was open with me and I hadnt gone off sex,but he hid it...or so he thought when I walked in on him at 2am in the middle of a wank which was really emmbaressing and a bit upsetting for me. I hadnt gone off it and was feeling left out sexually,so that was my problem. I have no probs with porn if its not hidden etc.
    Anyways to cut a long story short we had a bit of a rough patch,then talked about it. I told him im willing to watch with him etc,but I dont know really if he still does on his own. Ive not tried to check since as it makes me feel unwanted in that department and im trying not to get to stressed at d mo etc. Ive made it clear I dont mind etc so its up to him.
    We havent had much sex recently.....hope it changes back after d baby or else it might be him catching me at 2am relieving myself!!!!! Thing is 4 me sex is about a intimate bond i share with my guy,so at the mo Im not feeling so close to him, we still cuddle n kiss etc but its not d same 4 me at any rate.
    I would be more sympathetic if id gone off sex,but I havent n miss it. He seems to have which has not done my confidence 2 much good as I feel fat,tho im not. ive got 10 wks left of my pregnancy and ive put on a tot of 7kilos. which is not bad I think.
    Maybe I should treat myself to a xmas toy hehehehehehe
  • Hi Bex,

    Maybe you should, hehehe! I'm ony 13 weeks and my OH has already told me he doesn't know how he'll feel about it once I have a proper bump. I think men get put off because they think they'll hurt the baby or damage it psycologically or something!
  • yeah I think men actually do think a bit like that. my prof has told him that it dosent hurt d baby n stuff, but who knows how it effects a guy etc......................
    Ahhhhhhhhhhh well roll on 9n half wks !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (thats how long ive got left by d way not d film) !hehehe!
  • I've got to say porn has never made me feel like I'm not good enough & a vibrator has never made my dh inadequate either.... Iike you say if you're not a confident person to begin with, then it could be alot of other things that could make you feel worse not just porn?

    I can understand why your dh went off sex this time, I've got my fingers crossed for you that things go well! :\)

    wendy xx
  • Crikey - didn't this topic take off!! Sorry I haven't been involved in it much, had major prbs with my PC, but all sorted now.

    Its good to see that we all seem to have different views on the subject. Some of you feel the same as me, and others don't which is good. I wish I could be a little more open minded about it and relax like some of you do, but its one of those things that will always get me going!!

    BTW, for the record - I have tried to watch porn to work out what all the fuss is about, by myself and with hubby, but it does nothing for me and has the opposite effect of making me feel sick!!

    Anyways, maybe I should update you on the situation!! After being frosty towards him for a few days, I confronted him about it. We had a good old chat and from what he says, its just his form of release whilst i'm not "up for it"! Being brutally honest he said there are times when he feels horny, knows that I don't want to do anything, so rather than hassle me, he uses porn as a bit of visual stimulation which helps him to relieve himself more quickly then staring at the bathroom tiles!!!

    Since my post, we've also finally had sex, and actually it was rather nice!! I think I did it more for him, but once we got going, I did quite enjoy it, which was a bit of a relief!! I just hope that once i've had the baby, i'll get back to normal!!

    No doubt the topic will come up between us again..... but I am going to TRY and accept the fact that he will look at it from time to time. He knows how I feel about it and doesn't purposely go out of his way to upset me, its just a man thing.

    I think the major problem is that as females, we don't understand how men view and feel about porn and vice versa.

    Thank you for all your views and opinions. I'm even gonna let him loose on here to read everyones comments.... he may even join in!!

    Thanks again and hope all had a good Christmas.

    Leanne
    xx

  • Hi Leanne I'm 28+2. I haven't been on for a while so only just read post but found it really interesting.

    I have to agree with you, I disagree with hubby watching porn and can't understand the fascination.

    I lost all want for sex early on but recently I can't get enough, unfortunately hubby doesn't seem to feel the same, I don't know if it's fear of hurting baby or that I just don't do it for him now I've got a bump but whatever it is I feel very inadequate. I found some pics on his phone of a woman with everything out, didn't really do much for my confidence so I had a thought, I have started taking pics of myself when I'm not at work and sending them to his phone, giving him a taste of what he's missing seems to get him more in the mood when he gets home and it doesn't always have to be full on sex, it's sometimes just as nice if we have a massage and a 'play'.

    I am constantly worrying though that he is looking at porn but haven't yet caught him, only the pics on his phone.

    Sammi
    xxx
  • i dont know how this will go down with you all but im really wondering what your problem is! so hes having a wank and watching porn when you dont want sex. id think that was thoughtfull. i wasnt allowed sex till week 13 so my oh didnt relieve himself at all as i also wasnt allowed to orgasm . at least it is only watching porn and not going finding it elsewhere . things will get back to normal whatever normal is lol sharron
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