Cutting the Umbilical cord...
Last night OH and I were laying in bed (after some very good nookie i might add ) & the conversation came up about cutting the umbilical cord... this is our first child.. & Ive said I dont want to apply any pressure on OH to do anything he doesn't want to do! He is a proper Jack the lad type ( but has told me he is a little worried about fainting ..Shhh.. lol i didn't tell you all that) He really doesn't cope well with blood or emergencies and always looks to me for guidance! MEN!! haha
Now when i'm drugged up to the eye balls and my body is going thru massive tramua I wont be able to sort him out as well...
I said he was welcome of course to cut it, but if the time comes and he really doesn't feel able then thats fine too!
He asked me at what point would he have to cut the cord? where he is ment to cut it .. close to the baby or in the middle or close to me? lol the funniest thing he asked me was do they take the baby to be cleaned up first - he had visions of the midwife taking the child acroos the room still attached to me ... lol god only knows how long he thought the cord is... to be honest i didnt think that way right but i really didnt know how long it would be either... I now know its roughtly 20 inches! He thinks thats long but I'm think thats including the bit thats still atached to the inside of me?
But.. he asked what to expect.. I think the cord will be grissel like, I imagine quite hard to cut visions of having to hack through it! we both agreed we dont think there will be nerves in it so it shouldn't hurt me or the baby? :roll: we think... But i read something about you can make the choice to wait for it to stop pulsing or cut it while it still is pusling... Yuck!
He also asked me if where and how it is cut decides if its an inney or an outty..
He asked do the pull the cord to get the placenta out... I really don't know the answer to many of these questions & have tried to have a read up on it but cant find much infor plus anyways personal experiance is always good to learn from!!
Why any one would want to do it is like Ewww... but he seems to want to and thats fine by me...
just could anyone give us a little info on what actually happens ... what it feels like, whats the significants of daddy doing it over anyone else ect..
We have both agreed that the idea of the black thing hanging off our child is discussing so were going to wash him TOGETHER as neither of us really want to touch it!! lol that sounds awful and prob wont be so bad at the time!
We were wondering how long the belly button takes to fall of and what are we ment to do with it in the mean time ... like how do we tuck it into the nappy? :roll: oh god help us! lol & when it does fall off what are you ment to do with it
Lovely girls i once again thank you for you wisdom! lol xxx Mwah! xxx
Now when i'm drugged up to the eye balls and my body is going thru massive tramua I wont be able to sort him out as well...
I said he was welcome of course to cut it, but if the time comes and he really doesn't feel able then thats fine too!
He asked me at what point would he have to cut the cord? where he is ment to cut it .. close to the baby or in the middle or close to me? lol the funniest thing he asked me was do they take the baby to be cleaned up first - he had visions of the midwife taking the child acroos the room still attached to me ... lol god only knows how long he thought the cord is... to be honest i didnt think that way right but i really didnt know how long it would be either... I now know its roughtly 20 inches! He thinks thats long but I'm think thats including the bit thats still atached to the inside of me?
But.. he asked what to expect.. I think the cord will be grissel like, I imagine quite hard to cut visions of having to hack through it! we both agreed we dont think there will be nerves in it so it shouldn't hurt me or the baby? :roll: we think... But i read something about you can make the choice to wait for it to stop pulsing or cut it while it still is pusling... Yuck!
He also asked me if where and how it is cut decides if its an inney or an outty..
He asked do the pull the cord to get the placenta out... I really don't know the answer to many of these questions & have tried to have a read up on it but cant find much infor plus anyways personal experiance is always good to learn from!!
Why any one would want to do it is like Ewww... but he seems to want to and thats fine by me...
just could anyone give us a little info on what actually happens ... what it feels like, whats the significants of daddy doing it over anyone else ect..
We have both agreed that the idea of the black thing hanging off our child is discussing so were going to wash him TOGETHER as neither of us really want to touch it!! lol that sounds awful and prob wont be so bad at the time!
We were wondering how long the belly button takes to fall of and what are we ment to do with it in the mean time ... like how do we tuck it into the nappy? :roll: oh god help us! lol & when it does fall off what are you ment to do with it
Lovely girls i once again thank you for you wisdom! lol xxx Mwah! xxx
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I actually have this weird daydream about my boyfriend delivering the baby! I would really love him to do it! Of course if it really happened I'd be sh*tting myself but yeah....xxx
As far as I know (and this is what I have been told):
- the cord is spongy in texture, but they will give you sharp scissors so shouldnt be hard to cut.
- you DO NOT pull on the cord to get the placenta out as you risk ripping it from the side of the womb causing massive internal bleeding!
- he will be told by the midwives where to cut thr cord (between the clamps which will be in place to stop either you or the baby bleeding)
- the cord will be cut and then the baby will be cleaned up and weighed etc.
- cutting the cord will not cause pain to either mum or baby.
I dont know much about the belly button cord problem, but i imagine that you need to keep it outside of the nappy to let it dry out as much as possible. I know that you musn't pull it off as the baby will bleed if it hasn't healed properly (like picking a scab that hasn't healed!)
Hope that some of this has helped!
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Firstly stop bragging about your fun times last night - we're banned (since 14 weeks) so we don't even think about those things anymore!!!!!
Secondly I just had to respond - haven't got any info cos last two were sections and my first was nearly 20 years ago, but you made me laugh so much - the vision of the mw walking across the room with the baby pulling you along behind them was too much!!! And the bit about both of you washing the lo cos neither of you want to touch the black thing!!!!!
Sorry, I wasn't much help but you gave me such a giggle!!!
On a serious note, you really won't worry about any of this when lo is born cos you'll both be so busy blubbing (yes, even Jack the lad!) and happy to meet him/her!
As for cord, you just need to keep it dry and clean - just dry it off after bathing etc and as holly said, fold nappy down at front until it drops off - usually around a week. You can keep it if you want (I never have!) - perhaps make it into a necklace for your oh!!!!!
Good luck!xx
I've just asked my dh if he will be cutting the cord and whilst screwing his face up in disgust he said no!!!!! Said its too squeamish...since when he's been an expert on these things is news to me!!
Must admit, was surprised at his answer, but hey ho!! As long as he's there, i'll be happy - keep visualising me giving birth on the bathroom floor alone!!!
Sarah xx
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I have experienced first hand at cutting a cord and it is a lovely feeling. It sounds weird but i felt really privileged (sp?!) to be welcoming my nephew into the world by doing this! My sister in law decided she would wait until the cord had stopped pulsating before having it cut. It wasn't at all gory, the cord wasn't as hard as i thought it would be, but the scissors they use are quite big and sharp! All in all, i would say it is a lovely experience and can ensure your partner feels involved in the birth a little!
Lucy 18 + 4
I,m starting NCT classes on thursday, I'm really hoping they will get me through the fear!
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