i am miserable can someone please help me
I used to be the ultimate party girl. I would be out every weekend both nights and get drunk with my mates. I also used to smoke and loved it.
I have given all of that up now because of it being unhealthy for my baby and I accept that that is how my life will be from now on.
If I do go out with my friends though, they are all drinking and dancing, whilst I am sober and wishing I was at home tucked up in bed. I don't want to miss out on seeing my friends, I feel alone as it is, but during the day they are all sleeping off hangovers or at work.
I sometimes get depressed and talk to them about it, but all they can say is, oh think what you'll have at the end of it, it'll all be worth it. I know it sounds irrational, but all I can think of then is that nonme of them care that I am miserable now, it just doesn't matter becuase in 7 months I'll be happy. I don't know how t tell them that this isn't what I want to hear.
Please can someone help me. I'm so unhappy and I don't know what to do. My baby wasn't planned and the father doesn't want to know either. I feel all alone and i have no idea where to get help. please x
I have given all of that up now because of it being unhealthy for my baby and I accept that that is how my life will be from now on.
If I do go out with my friends though, they are all drinking and dancing, whilst I am sober and wishing I was at home tucked up in bed. I don't want to miss out on seeing my friends, I feel alone as it is, but during the day they are all sleeping off hangovers or at work.
I sometimes get depressed and talk to them about it, but all they can say is, oh think what you'll have at the end of it, it'll all be worth it. I know it sounds irrational, but all I can think of then is that nonme of them care that I am miserable now, it just doesn't matter becuase in 7 months I'll be happy. I don't know how t tell them that this isn't what I want to hear.
Please can someone help me. I'm so unhappy and I don't know what to do. My baby wasn't planned and the father doesn't want to know either. I feel all alone and i have no idea where to get help. please x
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Tammi xxx
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I totally agree with tamarabell. This is the best place to be, people are just so lovely. My midwives never told me about these websites that I could go onto and talk to other mums. I've had my baby now, but it makes me feel so much better that I'm not the only one going through the tough times. I wish I'd known about this before. The magazines and books just don't come anywhere near the feeling you get here... Feels like my 2nd home
Don't worry hun, you're not alone! if you've got msn n wana chat over there my address is crackrat007@hotmail.com
Tammi xxx
I had my 1st when I was 18 with no support from the father etc and had to give up my social life immediately. It's hard, but you get used to it - your priorities just change so fast it's hard to take in sometimes.
To add to what Tammi says, start meeting your friends in different places than you used to, meals, girls nights in etc etc - it doesn't have to include drinking etc. Get in touch with SureStart - they'll probably even be able to put you in touch with other young mums (I'm assuming you're quite young?) in your area - making friends with other people in similar situations to you will really help.
It's ok to be scared as well - I'm scared and I'm now married and having my 4th child so it doesn't completely go away!!
Big hugs to you - things will get better I promise......
Karenxx
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