How long did people wait to tell?
Hi everyone,
Can I just ask when people told friends and relatives they were expecting? I'm 8+5. We've told close family and friends, and my mum managed to get drunk and tell a lot of my family at my sister's wedding, and we are now getting pressure off my mother in law to tell her family, but I still think it's too early and am paranoid that as soon as I let everyone know, it'll all go wrong!
How long did everyone else wait? Do you think we should wait until the 12 week scan?
Charlotte x
Can I just ask when people told friends and relatives they were expecting? I'm 8+5. We've told close family and friends, and my mum managed to get drunk and tell a lot of my family at my sister's wedding, and we are now getting pressure off my mother in law to tell her family, but I still think it's too early and am paranoid that as soon as I let everyone know, it'll all go wrong!
How long did everyone else wait? Do you think we should wait until the 12 week scan?
Charlotte x
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Second time around we kept it a secret and only told MIL so she could babysit on appointments without asking questions. Unfortunately at the 12 week scan we found out the baby had died a few weeks earlier. We told than some close friends and family to get some support. But none of the friends knew.
Third and fourth where to short to tell anyone.
Now we are on the fifth pregnancy and told only MIL. This morning we had our 12 week scan and everything was fine, so we put it on facebook today. MIL told family just after the scan and my parents will find out on saturday. (when I go back home to Holland for a holiday) Than they can tell the rest of the family when they want.
My advice is that it can go either way. First time around I was so happy that people knew and to be honest I hate keeping it a secret. After the first time we lost a pregnancy I know I want to keep it a secret, it is so much easier not to tell everyone things went wrong. However the first time around it was really nice to talk to friends who had been through pregnancy before.
Brieghlin, sorry to hear about your second (See I'm doing it now!) I hope your family are flourishing now x
It's totally up to you though xx
with my first i told everyone pretty much straight away
Im only 8+3 and have only told closest friend and Mum guessed when i wasnt drinking at a meal. Hubby has told his brother and sil as he was ready to explode!
We have had an early scan so have seen a HB which has taken off some worry.
We are going to tell his family when we come back from Morocco. This is purely to save on the lectures about flying during pregnancy. As obv pregnancy is an illness and flying is the work of the devil. They think wales is foreign for goodness sake!
I think we will do the announcing after first scan tbh as i have had a mc previously and still a bit worried tili get to 12 weeks!
The people I had to specifically phone to tell, like my Dad who lives in France, I waited until 12 weeks.
We were meant to be getting married on the 6th Aug (4 weeks before due date) so then felt we had to tell those people who were coming from abroad, as we've postponed the wedding til next year, so they didnt book flights.
I ended up telling a couple of people at work because I'm a teacher and had really bad sickness all day every day and just had to keep running out of the classroom!!
We didnt tell anyone else til after our 12 week scan because we wanted to be sure everything was alright and I didnt want to tell people and then have to go back and tell them it wasnt happening if something had gone wrong!
Sarah 37+1
Lauren 12+2