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If you've just miscarried and need some support
DanielleMFM
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Hello.
If you’re reading this thread, it’s likely you’ve recently suffered a miscarriage: we are so sorry for your loss.
We also wanted to let you know, you are not alone, especially here on the forum.
Sadly, miscarriage is something many of us experience and we know how important it can be to have a place where you can talk to others who understand how you’re feeling and what you’re going through.
So that’s what this thread is for.
Please do come and say hello – we’re sending you virtual hugs.
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They didn't really offered me any tests,as they said my last MC was chemical pregnancy and that I am testing way to early.
But after that I had new pregnancy and month ago I have a birth to a healthy little boy
Just keep trying and believe your little bundle will be here in no time x
emotionally, you need to give yourself time to grieve.
As devastating as it is, You have to remember that every pregnancy is new and different and just because this has happened doesn’t mean it’ll happen again. I lost my baby boy at 20-21 weeks pregnant last March and then MC again in August at 11 weeks. I’m now over 37 weeks pregnant with my rainbow baby girl and I never thought I’d get to this point.
take care and good luck on Monday.xxx
It started on a Monday I woke up out my sleep to blood running down my legs, I rushed to the restroom where I passed this massive boot clot. I thought for sure that was the baby, and my pregnancy was over. I grieved that entire day begging and pleading for understanding as to why this happened to me. I even reached out to some people I knew that had miscarriages to understand how they coped with it mentally. The entire day was awful I didn’t get any sleep and I had to act happy around my son because he was unaware of what I was experiencing.
On Tuesday I went to the doctor and my doctor asked me what happened and informed me that it might had been a threatened miscarriage and there was a 50/50 chance that I cold still be pregnant.i just knew in my mind it was over, and I already came to terms with it.i got an ultrasound and there my baby was still bouncing around in my stomach, I was so confused and in disbelief. I felt as if my prayers was answered and I was given that second chance. Everything was fine, my uterus was in tact, my cervix was great, the baby’s heartbeat was normal and it was moving just fine. My doctor informed me that it could still be a chance for miscarriage, but at that moment everything was fine. I left the hospital with new pictures of the baby, and was excited to move forward.
Later that evening the pain became intense in my pelvic area so i decided to go to the Emergency room. I was at the emergency room for five hours, and still on the ultrasound the baby was bouncing around, heartbeat was normal and everything was fine. I made it home about midnight, when I got in the pain got intense and my pelvic area felt bloated. I sat on the toilet and what felt like a vaginal birth, came out my baby in a sac. In total shock, I scooped it out the toilet and just starred at it in confusion because everything was just fine, but here my baby is dead in a spoon. Before I could even grieve I felt pressure come from my pelvic area. I began to pass huge clots and everything released from my body. All I know about death is that once you’re about to die everything is emptied from your body. And that’s exactky what happened to me.Blood, clots, and bowel was released from my body. It felt like death, I felt faint and dizzy, I didn’t have the energy to even clean my self, I fell to the floor and there I laid for atleast an hour with blood and bowel everywhere. What’s even more hard about the situation is that I had to beg for the strength to get up and clean the bathroom because my son was in the bed sleep, and I didn’t want him to walk in the bathroom with me laying like that in the floor. Faint and dizzy, I passed blood, clots, and bowel one more time before I was able to get up and clean up. I cleaned the blood and bowel up, and place the baby in papertowels in a ziplock bag, I couldn’t find the strength to flush it down the toilet. The sad part is I experienced this all by myself which leaves me more devastated because I have no shoulder to lean on. Here I am physically drained and mentally confused still having to act normal so my child don’t suspect anything. This is tough, and I never thought I’d experienced anything like this. I need help, and I have the slightest clue on where to turn, and that how I ended up here!
What a totally horrible experience you had! I never heard about something like that. You are very strong person and you son is your biggest support. May be you think how can he be,but because of him you finding this strength in you! It's very hard to get yourself together after MC,but with time it will gets bit easier and one day you will be pregnant again and will have a baby x
Try to find something to help you to tribute that pregnancy- new tattoo, play a flower, get a piece of jewellery that you will wear daily and ect...
After my MC I got earrings with a footprint that I am wearing now,for me worked as a stiches for my broken heart and in the future I planning on getting tattoo.