Struggling

Steamy13 · Jul 31, 2019 5:16PM

Hey guys,

I'm new on here, I have a beautiful little girl and we are trying for our second baby, but have had three MC, one before my little girl and two recently my last one I was 9 weeks pregnant everything grew but a fetus it hit us hard, it's been seven months and still not fallen and I'm terrified if I do fall it'll end in MC, when do you think it's time to give up trying, I really don't want to but it takes it tull

Kazam2817 · Jul 31, 2019 8:30PM

Steamy13 said:

Hey guys,

I'm new on here, I have a beautiful little girl and we are trying for our second baby, but have had three MC, one before my little girl and two recently my last one I was 9 weeks pregnant everything grew but a fetus it hit us hard, it's been seven months and still not fallen and I'm terrified if I do fall it'll end in MC, when do you think it's time to give up trying, I really don't want to but it takes it tull

That’s a difficult one hunni that I don’t think anyone can answer for you. We have been trying for baby no.1 on and off for 4 years now. I got diagnosed with PCOS recently and we are now about to start our 2nd round IUI with fertility drugs, we pay privately and it’s very expensive. I am also about to turn 37 this year.

I understand the emotional toll that it can take and I don’t know how long I am going to keep trying for, but mentally I am not ready yet to give up yet but that’s just me. Like I said I think it’s incredibly personal and only you will know when it feels right for you. It can put a big toll on relationships and I am def not prepared to lose my OH over this so we try and keep good communication.

Anyway sorry for war and peace and I don’t feel like I have been very helpful but I just wanted you to know you’re not alone in feeling this way , the decision comes down to a number of factors and ultimately it’s up to you when it feels like time xxx

Steamy13 · Jul 31, 2019 8:44PM

I know what your saying I was diagnosed with pcos to and emdemitriosis too so lucky I have my baby girl, I know how much that wanting is just for one, I was told I'd find it hard but the first didn't take too long but this second doesn't seem like it'll happen every month I have to test even when my period comes because I'm wishful thinking then I'm so down, about it. Four years is a long time my friend recommended Myo insitol susposed to help with pcos and conceiving I've been taking it, my friend spent years trying went on insitol and fell within a couple of months I think it helps balance hormones and absorb insulin better. I just wish I was happy having one, I know how incredibly blessed I am just want her to have a brother or sister...we have spoken about adopting.... Have you had fertility tests or is it just the pcos stopping you? X

Kazam2817 · Jul 31, 2019 9:19PM

I had all my tests done my tubes are all clear etc and my period is fairly regular but I have PCOS anyway and don’t always ovulate which is why we now are using the fertility drugs. 4 years is a long time but if it’s meant it will happen and if not I will have to re look at my life and what I want out of it instead. Yes you are lucky to have one but I don’t think it makes it any easier for you to handle the disappointment of not getting g that BFP when you want another one. It has taken me this long to just have one and yet I know I will want a sibling for them too unless I have twins lol. Good luck with it all I hope to see your bfp soon xxx

Maeve88Troy · Aug 1, 2019 2:27PM

Steamy13 said:

Hey guys,

I'm new on here, I have a beautiful little girl and we are trying for our second baby, but have had three MC, one before my little girl and two recently my last one I was 9 weeks pregnant everything grew but a fetus it hit us hard, it's been seven months and still not fallen and I'm terrified if I do fall it'll end in MC, when do you think it's time to give up trying, I really don't want to but it takes it tull

Hi! have you considered IVF? i got a sperm donation abroad and it worked wonders for me and my wife

Steamy13 · Aug 1, 2019 2:52PM

No, as you can't just get IVF unless you pay private which we can't afford, you have to go through a process we are down to see the fertility specialist soon so fingers crossed they will be able to tell us what is wrong.

Maeve88Troy · Aug 2, 2019 2:22AM

Praying for you! Maybe you can check your insurance if it can cover your IVF? that's what happened to me, i was able to get an sperm donation in Cyprus! found out i was pregnant a month ago!

EdwardsSarah996 · Aug 8, 2019 1:47PM

Hi im new to this whole IVF thing, any advice you can give me on how to pick the right clinic to go to?

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