Help with 2 year old sleep... please!
Hello everyone,
This is my first post. I realise the website is made for mums but hopefully you'll make room for a dad.
We have an absolutely wonderful two year old daughter who is a delight during the day, come night time however sleep has always been a real struggle.
For the first year and a half of little one's life she was almost always with mum and became really attached to her (vs. me I mean). Since a few months ago however I no longer work full time, mum and I both work part time and take care of little one for half of the week each almost. It took us all some time to adjust but during the day now we have a great time and she loves spending time with either of us, and will have her nap with me and the works.
Night time sleep little one is attached to mum and will not leave her at all. She won't even let me touch her at night. The only way I can get her to sleep is by taking her out in the car and driving around until she sleeps. During the night she will cry continuously until mum puts her in our bed next to us and she is physically stuck to her all through the night.
With mum working this has been very difficult as it means she has to spend the night before work waking up, comforting little one, and with little one trying to sleep on top of her all night she wakes up shattered.
We've tried sleep routines, baths, tiring her out, omitting naps, and controlled crying albeit half heatedly. We keep getting conflicting advice and I just don't know what to do to help solve this. I am well and truly stuck and would appreciate any help, I see mum struggling and it breaks my heart that all I'm doing is watch =(
Thanks!
This is my first post. I realise the website is made for mums but hopefully you'll make room for a dad.
We have an absolutely wonderful two year old daughter who is a delight during the day, come night time however sleep has always been a real struggle.
For the first year and a half of little one's life she was almost always with mum and became really attached to her (vs. me I mean). Since a few months ago however I no longer work full time, mum and I both work part time and take care of little one for half of the week each almost. It took us all some time to adjust but during the day now we have a great time and she loves spending time with either of us, and will have her nap with me and the works.
Night time sleep little one is attached to mum and will not leave her at all. She won't even let me touch her at night. The only way I can get her to sleep is by taking her out in the car and driving around until she sleeps. During the night she will cry continuously until mum puts her in our bed next to us and she is physically stuck to her all through the night.
With mum working this has been very difficult as it means she has to spend the night before work waking up, comforting little one, and with little one trying to sleep on top of her all night she wakes up shattered.
We've tried sleep routines, baths, tiring her out, omitting naps, and controlled crying albeit half heatedly. We keep getting conflicting advice and I just don't know what to do to help solve this. I am well and truly stuck and would appreciate any help, I see mum struggling and it breaks my heart that all I'm doing is watch =(
Thanks!
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I don’t have experience of this as fortunately my little boy has always liked his own bed (our issue is more him getting up at the crack of dawn everyday!). But I didn’t want to read and not reply.
My husband gets along great with our son, but all hell would brebr loose when he would try to put him to bed on his own. Like your daughter, my son would freak out if Daddy even touched him at bed time, he only wanted mummy.
What worked for us was the two of us would put him to bed, so he got used to daddy being there at night time. Then my husband started to put him to bed on his own, and would tell a white lie, that mummy was gone to work, to stop him from looking for me.
My husband can now put him to bed with no fuss and settle him at night with no fuss. It didn't take long for our soon to get used to this.
I still put him to bed most nights, but our son is now fine with daddy doing it too.
Hope you find something that works for you.
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