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My daughter wasn't a late miscarriage
I am rather upset that my eldest daughter's death is classed as a late miscarriage. She was born at 23 weeks and 6 days alive. The doctors point blank refused to help her even though she was breathing on her own and had quite the set of lungs. After they refused to help her I had to say goodbye. She died at 5 minutes old in my arms. I have had miscarriages she was not a miscarriage. So I don't understand how she can be classed as a late one. She was born, lived and died. I say she was a baby loss not a miscarriage. As that is the truth. It wouldn't be so bad if health professionals who speak to me afterwards didn't say " a late miscarriage" as if it was nothing like my daughter was nothing. Pees me off big time when they do that. I wouldn't wish the loss of a baby on anyone but I do wish people understood alot more than they do. So they'd stop with all this insensitive and down right horrible remarks. I didn't get to bury the two I miscarriaged on before I fell pregnant on her. But I buried her. I had to watch as my little girl was carried into my childhood church in a tiny coffin. I had to endure the pain of saying goodbye forever having it sink in like a knife in flesh. Yes I mourned the two I miscarriaged and not a day goes by that I dont miss them, wonder what they would have looked like, what gender were they etc. But giving birth to child you know shouldn't actually be born yet, have them scream to high heaven when they come out after being told by a horrible woman not to expect them to come out alive only to have help refused and for the baby to die in your arms at 5 mins old is something no one would forget in a hurry. Something that stays with you and haunts your dreams. Miscarriages are a loss and they do hurt like hell not just the physical pain but the emotion of losing a baby too. When I lost my two they barely looked like anything let alone a small human. I don't mean that harshly I loved them very much still do. But to have an almost fully formed baby die in your arms it's not worse not better it's just super painful. I don't get why anyone thinks they can say she was a late miscarriage majority of the time in a disrespectful and insensitive way. Giving the "I don't give a rat's arse if you lost a baby I need you out of here so I can see the next person or go home" sort of attitude. I'm not the only one who has witnessed that foul attitude. A friend of mine did and was good smacked
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I find it so sad that he doesn’t have a birth certificate etc, or something to acknowledge that he was here. He was tiny yes but he was perfect.
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