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New Year BFP
FlossyLZ
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Hi ladies. As I am cycle day one today I thought I would start a thread for those who will be hoping for their New Year bfp.
I am ttc baby number 3 and am on cycle 8 now. This baby is proving way more difficult than my first two who were both conceived the first month of ttc. What a shock 7 month of trying has been! I usually have 30 day cycle so ovulation predicted to be around 20th Dec. Please share your ttc stories - I would love to hear them. I need something to help me get out of the teary mess I have been the past few days. I am going to say it.... This month I genuinely felt angry that I wasn't pregnant. Despite the shock that it is taking longer than I thought, up until now I have always thought... Well there is always next month. This month I just burst into tears when I saw a bfn. Then I think the frustration set in. For at least 5 of the months we have tried, we have timed bd very well, and part of me doesn't get why I am not pregnant yet. I guess it is just a question of time and a little more patience. If the chances of conceiving in one cycle with well timed bd are around 25% then I guess some just need longer than others to stack that stat in our favour. I have to say though, this forum has been an immense source of support for me so thank you.
I am ttc baby number 3 and am on cycle 8 now. This baby is proving way more difficult than my first two who were both conceived the first month of ttc. What a shock 7 month of trying has been! I usually have 30 day cycle so ovulation predicted to be around 20th Dec. Please share your ttc stories - I would love to hear them. I need something to help me get out of the teary mess I have been the past few days. I am going to say it.... This month I genuinely felt angry that I wasn't pregnant. Despite the shock that it is taking longer than I thought, up until now I have always thought... Well there is always next month. This month I just burst into tears when I saw a bfn. Then I think the frustration set in. For at least 5 of the months we have tried, we have timed bd very well, and part of me doesn't get why I am not pregnant yet. I guess it is just a question of time and a little more patience. If the chances of conceiving in one cycle with well timed bd are around 25% then I guess some just need longer than others to stack that stat in our favour. I have to say though, this forum has been an immense source of support for me so thank you.
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TTC for 15 months, have had two early MCs x
My first two were conceived without even trying (I was on the pill with no1, no2 was the month I came off it!).
Do you bbt or opk to ensure your ovulation times? I’m trying not to let ttc take over my life but I’m not getting any younger now so feel like the pressure is starting to mount up.
Hoping to start trying again Feb/March time but I'm so anxious about how it will be received with me being relatively new to the company, but we don't want to wait another year! It could take that long to actually conceive.
Hope you are all well. Are you UK based?
Based in the UK too, I really would recommend that you don’t put it off because of work x
I know a few people have said that to me but I didn't want to be pregnant and have no job 😫 as much as we want a family, we need to be able to support that family too. I'm currently working for the agency so to qualify for SMP I need to be working for the company for at least 3 weeks before becoming pregnant to qualify. I think I will be under probation with them until start of April as they will be taking me on at the start of next month, but I'm hoping to start trying again Jan/Feb.
Have you been able to seek medical advice yet with you ttc for 15 months? I know the amount of trying depends on your age.x
Yes I had blood tests in Feb...they showed high prolactin levels and possibly thyroid issue, but had repeat ones 1 and 3 months later which were fine. But when I turned 36 in Oct I went back and asked for help again, they did swabs and blood tests which were all normal. So as for me they have said all is fine. My DH is having semen analysis done in 2 weeks so it’ll be interesting to see what hat shows. In my mind as we have fallen twice surely there can’t be a lot wrong with him?! Who knows!
Sorry for such a long message!! Basically I know feel like I am just getting older so quickly and months are just passing but I’m in my second month of tracking bbt and using ovulation tests to check for our best days....still no luck but I do feel like out of the 15-16 months since we started so many of them must have had no chance anyway as I was going on dates my FitBit said and that’s way out!! X
Yeah I think worry has a lot to answer for doesn't it! Bless you:( As daft as it sounds o found comfort in what happened as like you say, it shows you can conceive. It just means the right sperm has got through yet but it will!
I think OPKs definitely work! Which ones are you using? I used the fitbit app to begin with and like you say it's not very accurate. Then the month that we conceived was the first month trying OPKs! I got cheapie sticks from Ebay and then the Clearblue 2 day window one to confirm the cheapie sticks. We BD the day I got my peak and the day after I think. So I certainly felt it worked. The little bean just decided not to stay for some reason. X
That is good about what they’ve said, it is your right to go off and have a baby though so they can’t say anything. I’m sure they’ll want to keep you.
Yes thats a really good good way to look at it....we have managed to conceive already so I see it as a case of bad luck that the right things have not happened....YET! I have my fingers crossed for us both x
No I don't do BBT. Using OPKs is annoying enough lol same time everyday, starring looking for that line to be darker 😂
Yeah I hope so. I probably am overthinking it. It would be fine if I was still at my old place, but I'm only new at this job.
Yeah exactly! Just try and think of that while you are trying and hopefully that will make you relax a bit.
Really random but the cycle I caught on I had started watch pregnancy announcement videos on youtube lol. They made me so happy to see and hopefully too so I think I was in a different frame of mind that month. Hope it happens for you soon 🤞🤞 x
You'll get there, I'm sure we all will. We just need to not put so much pressure on ourselves as that's when it doesn't happen x