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Caught partner masturbating after I didnt feel like sex

Chloe87Chloe87 Regular
edited Apr 10, 2020 2:20PM in General chat
Yesterday despite having sex in the morning my partner wanted it again in the afternoon and normally I wouldn't refuse but with the dizzy spells I didnf feel up to it. 10 mins later I catch him upstairs in the bedroom masturbating to porn step mum fucking step son to he exact . It made me feel horrific and he looked just as horrified to be caught and said I shouldn't be sneaking about ?? I was going to the loo!!  I left the house in tears I felt betrayed I'd already had a melt down that morning about my body and how I dont feel sexy. After about half hour he asked me to come back i did eventually i asked him outright did he carry on watching the porn and finish when I left upset to which he admitted to a few more videos and carrying on. so I felt even more betrayed why do men do this ? I dont understand we have a very good sex life considering im six months pregnant I still dress up use toys can manage all sorts of positions and usually twice a day still I feel very let down hurt and betrayed the stuff he watches is skinny fake titted tight arsed sluts doing 3 or 4 men weve watched it together a few times when drunk its not my cup of tea but Ive watched with him, but the fact hes snuck off upstairs while I'm in the house has hurt me deep down my self confidence or what I had left is gone I dont know how to compete with what he watches when I'm the size of a small whale I cried all night and didnt sleep a wink he thinks I've overreacted I know men do it but do it in bloody private when the house is empty at least he doesn't see how this has effected me 

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  • AyanaAyana Regular
    You need to talk this through. Conversating with your partner is a key. My husband never watches porn because this is considered sin in our religion but right now me being 7 months pregnant he understand that sex isnt safe during this time and we just agreed not to do it at the moment only when we feel like.  But I have heard many men like to watch porn and masturbate that is normal for them especially as you are pregnant right now he might not feel like it's right to make love but it doesnt mean he finds you unattractive! Just sit down and talk this through you cant be stressing about and crying while carrying your little one as this stress you are going through will affect the baby. Try and stay strong for the sake of this child and let your partner decide what's important for him to masturbate or to show affection to his girlfriend who is carrying his baby. Some men are just insecure but he might not be able to make a step and talk to you if he is first time dad. You can also block adult channels from your tv provider through settings then he wont be able to watch those nasty videos! I never understood men who enjoy watching filthy porn I feel for you!!! Theres nothing worse being pregnant going through all difficulties and body changes and after all coming to a room where your partner is masturbating! You must feel low but I'm sure if you will be able to talk to him about this everything will be back to normal just let him know that he must understand your feelings too that you might not always feel right to have sex, that it also might be dangerous. But that doesnt mean you do not want him maybe that's what his point is.
  • Runningmom77Runningmom77 Regular
    I find this normal in most men. When they are denied sex they are all built up with testosterone and need a release. The fact that you caught him wanking it to pornongraphy is disturbing to walk in in on but most men do this. I think to really be spontaneous is to act like a porn with him some nite like a role play. Really be into it.... he will be totally shocked and it’s so much fun as a couple 
  • Chloe87Chloe87 Regular
    edited May 15, 2020 8:08PM
    Runningmom77 said:
    I find this normal in most men. When they are denied sex they are all built up with testosterone and need a release. The fact that you caught him wanking it to pornongraphy is disturbing to walk in in on but most men do this. I think to really be spontaneous is to act like a porn with him some nite like a role play. Really be into it.... he will be totally shocked and it’s so much fun as a couple 
    We already do all this ! I still dress up in outfits he comes home and I'm waiting in the kitchen in just an apron we have sext 2-3 times a day !! Usually twice ! He's never denied sex we'd already had sex that day I caught him I only didn't fancy it then as I'd been in th garden and was all sweaty onced I'd sorted my self out I'd have been all up for it !! But he didn't want to wait! I know they all do it but I just don't want to know what he's watching and see him doing it u know we deffo do not have a boring sex life at all ! 
  • Runningmom77Runningmom77 Regular
    Ok how abut this then. This may sound crazy but you should make him jealous back! Let him catch you self pleasuring to a pornographic video! It sounds crazy but he will be so jealous that he is being left out of the fun. Is that something you would do? 
  • Chloe87Chloe87 Regular
    Runningmom77 said:
    Ok how abut this then. This may sound crazy but you should make him jealous back! Let him catch you self pleasuring to a pornographic video! It sounds crazy but he will be so jealous that he is being left out of the fun. Is that something you would do? 
    Oh don't get me wrong I'm happy to pleasure my self !! I've got plenty of toys but porn isn't my think I don't need to watch it to get my self turned on like men do !!! 
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