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Jammy1892
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Hi ladies,
I have posted on here a few times for questions and advice, but right now I just need a rant and some hope/success stories from anyone who has been struggling ttc.
It has now officially been a year since we have been actively trying and AF showed today. I feel so absolutely gutted, sad and heartbroken.Â
I work on a daily basis with pregnant women and babies which makes it heart that much more. To top things off my best friend has just found out she is pregnant - on her first month of trying! It's just a kick in the teeth when we have been trying for so long and done everything possible in our power to increase our chances (many hours of research, diet, supplements, cutting alcohol, etc..).
I really need some hope right now from anyone who has had a success story after TTC struggles. My partner has poor sperm motility and morphology so any success stories relating to this would be extremely helpful!Â
Baby dust to you all xx
I have posted on here a few times for questions and advice, but right now I just need a rant and some hope/success stories from anyone who has been struggling ttc.
It has now officially been a year since we have been actively trying and AF showed today. I feel so absolutely gutted, sad and heartbroken.Â
I work on a daily basis with pregnant women and babies which makes it heart that much more. To top things off my best friend has just found out she is pregnant - on her first month of trying! It's just a kick in the teeth when we have been trying for so long and done everything possible in our power to increase our chances (many hours of research, diet, supplements, cutting alcohol, etc..).
I really need some hope right now from anyone who has had a success story after TTC struggles. My partner has poor sperm motility and morphology so any success stories relating to this would be extremely helpful!Â
Baby dust to you all xx
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fingers crossed you get your bfp very soon!xxx
It sounds horrible as well hut at times a almost feel angry at my OH....I know it's not his fault. Just so hard to feel.positive after so long and trying everything.
@Catlady220 I'm 28. I know that's still young but I feel so angry at myself for not trying to start sooner. It is heartbreaking as a lot of my friends are now having babies and it is so hard to be happy for them and not jealous! Xx
Have you thought about tracking your cycles using BBT to try and maximise your chances each month, I found it a valuable tool as it turned out I ovulate at completely different times each month, sometimes early, sometimes late so there was no wonder we kept missing those crucial times.Â
I just want you to know that all hope is not lost, a very close friend of mine is currently on her IVF journey, she has PCOS and her DH low count and motility so they were told there was almost no chance of conceiving naturally but have a really high chance through IVF. They are a little older than you too so at 28, you have plenty of time to figure the next steps out and come up with a plan once you know what you're up against. I'm nearly 32 and only just pregnant with our first so don't be worrying about age!Â
Keep your chin up x
If you need any help with tracking ovulation, just ask! I tracked from a few months into trying and it really helped me pin point when was best to try. I tended to ovulate anytime between 11 and 13 days but it was only when I did OPKs that I realised how quick my LH would surge and then release an egg. If your OH has sperm issues then quality over quantity might be better but with tracking you can better plan your BD xÂ
Echoing @Emmy012, we have all
felt lost at times but you can always look here for support x
my story:Â
came off BC April 2017. Thought it would happen overnight. Sister got pregnant in November 2017, broke my heart as it was her first go. Around that time, loads of friends also got pregnant. Months went by and then a year or so, got pregnant January 2019, after so so long of waiting. Got so excited and told quite a few people. Sadly miscarried at 5 weeks. Got pregnant again in April 2019, again miscarriage at 5+1, but fully expected it. Partner then tells me he doesnât want to try anymore and doesnât know if he wants kids (June 2019). He wonât have sex with me. Eventually he relaxes (around October 2019) but on and off he relaxed and we manage to have sex, but then changes his mind. Iâm still at this point now, just working on our relationship. He says that TTC was very clinical and he felt like thatâs all sex was (Iâm telling you this to warn you!)
meanwhile, I have had cycles of 90+ days, but figured out that taking VITEX helps my cycles to be more regular, not that it matters much haha
and now, the friends I felt envious of for being pregnant the first time around, are now pregnant with their second and it hurts like absolute hell.Â
also - for advise on BBT and OPK Â
Can you remind me, are you in the UK? If so where abouts?Â
I'm sorry you're struggling, I feel your pain.Â
My story is that dh and I ttc for a year with no luck. I had been charting and used a digital opk for a few of the months.
We found out that his sperm count was likely to be low to zero because of some medication he was on, so he started taking some testosterone supplements, and I got pregnant that month.
Sadly, I went for the 12 week scan and the baby had died a few weeks before, so I went in for an ERPC last month. I have had 3 weeks of blood tests to check my b-hcg level was going down (I'd had a partial molar pregnancy a few years ago) and as of a fortnight ago there was still some hormone left. I'm awaiting my results from Thursday's test and hoping it's negative so we can ttc this month.
I am an older mum, so time is not on our side. It feels like it will never happen for us, but we are trying to stay positive. I am taking multivitamins and don't drink or smoke, trying to eat healthily and dh is taking the testosterone again.Â
I just want to say please don't lose hope, you are much younger than I am and if I can get pregnant it gives hope that you can too.
Babydust to you x
@RememberToBreathe @Emmy012 Â Â I use opk cheapy strips as well as clear blue one. Dont think knowing when I'm ovulating is the problem as I am pretty regular and we try and BD most days around the fertile window. I never tell him when it is but he always seems to know which can affect him sometimes which is frustrating! BBT is difficult for me because of shift work....but do you think this is a better method than opk?
@Aliciab90 sorry to hear at has been such a difficult process for you. I hope that your OH changes his mind soon!Â
@SR19 yes I think we did speak before. Good that you have started(or about to start hopefully)Â your ivf journey. Yes I am in the UK in the south. Have done one blood test just need to do the other but drs are being a pain about it!Â
Xx
Baby dust xx
I'd test every day at the same time and record my test strip on the app, as soon as the score starting getting high I'd start taking them twice a day and try bd with OH. I never mentioned I was due to ovulate, or anything about my opks, I would just initiate some "spontaneous" bd haha.
As soon as I got a peak opk where the test strip and control like were equally dark I would try and bd as much as I could for 3 days so I was sure not to miss my egg release.Â
BBT would confirm ovulation had happened and I would see a gradual rise in temperature.Â
It's hard to know exactly when you will ovulate from getting your peak opk but it's usually within 3 days, some months I would ovulate the day I got my peak and other times two days after. I'd keep taking my opks each day until they went back to normal and were negative again to be sure.
I have heard mixed reviews about the cb opks as they can be a little misleading, with the cheap ones you can really get a good idea but you've got to be consistent with them.Â
You could still track bbt if you were willing to wake up at the same time wvry day to take your temperature, even if you shift work as long as you were getting a good 4 hours sleep before hand and took it at the same time. I used to wake at 5.45am take my temperature and sometimes go back to sleep if I needed to be up later. Again it's got to be as accurate as possible for the data to count but you do figure out a lot about your cycles using it.Â