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Hi there,
You seem to have a level head about things which can only be a good thing - babies are very receptive to your emotions. I am 32 weeks tomorrow and have been through so many different emotions from the 'am I really pregnant' feeling to the 'WHY CAN'T I SLEEP' feeling. I had to have a scan at 6 weeks (as soon as I found out I was pregnant) because I was getting really bad abdomen pains. If the Midwife had just explained that it was just my uterus growing I wouldn't have been nearly as scared.
Just remember there are a lot of things they don't tell you about pregnancy and that stress is not good for you.
If you need any support or just a chat look me up and I'll be happy to help you in any way I can.
Take care and rest easy!!
Vikki xx
You seem to have a level head about things which can only be a good thing - babies are very receptive to your emotions. I am 32 weeks tomorrow and have been through so many different emotions from the 'am I really pregnant' feeling to the 'WHY CAN'T I SLEEP' feeling. I had to have a scan at 6 weeks (as soon as I found out I was pregnant) because I was getting really bad abdomen pains. If the Midwife had just explained that it was just my uterus growing I wouldn't have been nearly as scared.
Just remember there are a lot of things they don't tell you about pregnancy and that stress is not good for you.
If you need any support or just a chat look me up and I'll be happy to help you in any way I can.
Take care and rest easy!!
Vikki xx
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Tammi
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I think in your heart you know your oh does want to be with you but he is petrified for poor little demi (as I know you are!)
From what I can imagine - she has set him up BIG TIME. People dont usually have their phones ready to record at the drop of a hat and she is a schemer sooo ...........!
I may be wrong but only you know him and her and who would you really believe? Would you want her to win and split you up if it is just a scheme?
Take care, Love Lee xxxxx
i know it sounds stupid and immature, but sometimes i just want to act like her you know? give her a taste of her own medicine, but then i look at demi and jason and know its not worth it.
either way, its down to jason now. she is still texting me all day, saying how she has more, and i dying to say send them to me, but at the same time to her it will look likeshe is winnin as i havent talked to her since last week, and didnt even give her a reaction to the recording she sent.
in a way, i want to hear more, so i can see for myself if there are any more, in another way i dont want to incase it upsets jason and incase i hear something jason can't wriggle out of.
I know if it were me I would want to forgive him and think that everything could be okay, but in all honesty I think the not knowing would be enough to wreck the relationship, it would be going around in my head that whatever she did or does he said those things... for me the trust would be gone which would only cause more anxioty, she did send them to you to upset you and get between you but it's the mere fact that she was able to get him to say those things... for me I am a suspitious person and would think to be prepared to record there must of been a simular conversation before hand for her to pre-empt that it could be repeated??
I am not saying any of this to worry you luv, your in such a hard possition right now, i am just explaining the things that I think would be running thru my head... if she thinks she hasn't a reaction perpahps she will send you more could you just delete them without listening even if it means your in the dark?
you cant make someone want you even if you really really want them too, I learned that the hard way.. Id suggest spending time on your own before you make any rash decisions... tell him you want a break for a while.. and see what he does with the time.. does he try to win you back or go running right to her... I know that it is a dangerous risk to take but I think at least you would know where you truely stand and if it's you he choses Id put some very firm ground rules about what acptable behaviour within your relationship... why does he need to discuss anything with her apart from the child? how does she have your number?
this maybe hard to think about especially if you want him to sweet talk you and for things to 'be okay' but will they??
can you trust him? only you know what the realtionship is worth and can only do what is right for you and the little one!
please let me know how you get on sugar!?? xxx
and thanks it_must_be_love for your comment, i have been posting whats going on for the past few eeks here and everyone has been so great. Hope you guys dont think im using the website for conselling, its just getting it out of my head and onto somewhere helps me think, and its great to hear when someone agrees your not just going crazy.
You must love him to go through with and put up with all this, you should get her and him in the same room and have it out and see what both their reactions are.Good luck, take care.
vikki xx
you do sound like you love him, sometimes fellas just get a bit spooked... doesn't mean they dont want it!! I talked to my fella when I first got pg and we have been trying for ages and he found it really hard that from the start really apart from the choices I give him he has no say! which is awful but is true across the board! maybe he just needs a little time to settle with the idea?
I think most prob if it was me id do what Vikki R has said about getting the pair of them in the room... then you know where you stand!
I dont think your using this place at all of course this forum is here to support thru what ever pregnant ladies are facing and I bet as sad as it is you wont be the only one going thru this or having been thru it, so its a good place to come to for advice!
you take care of your self love ... wont you... and let us know how your getting on! xx
I think you should give him chance to prove himself, but something needs doing bout this woman - i'm sure from a previous post you've said about your oh going for full custody of his lil girl, could be a solution. You don't need this stress right now hunni, don't lower yourself to her standards and don't allow her to send you more twisted recordings which she could have edited to suit her aim!! I never have my phone ready to record and only someone who's planning something would have it recording at such a time, she was obviously baiting him.
Chin up xx