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Sex & Love - Some help Girls!
I have just had a conversation with a friend about sex and love... and her viewing them as the same thing... She is not the first friend to say this to me...
For me I was with OH a full year before we 'did it' because for me I had to be sure he loved me! & it's the icing on the cake for our relationship - and we really enjoy a good sex life but of course at diffrent times your sex drives both change but were quite good at letting each other know lol - and of course it is a good way of confirming our love and brings us closer but sometimes we just want some and sometimes we just want to snuggle ;\) lol!
I was just wonder how other people felt about this - as I know that it is something that pregnancy affects - with fellas being put off by bumps, pregnant ladies loosing there sex drive or it going wild, self image, sexuality, is it okay to do 'it' when baby is in there will he/she know and respond, what motivations people have is it to show/confirm love, or do they think its the same thing, ect
I personally feel its a lovely extra that makes your relationship so much more pleasurable but if the foundations are unsteady - it makes it all very messy! So its good to know there is substance to your relationship rather than just animal attraction because that does wear off over time even if your OH still has the PWAHH factors!!
what does everyone else think?
For me I was with OH a full year before we 'did it' because for me I had to be sure he loved me! & it's the icing on the cake for our relationship - and we really enjoy a good sex life but of course at diffrent times your sex drives both change but were quite good at letting each other know lol - and of course it is a good way of confirming our love and brings us closer but sometimes we just want some and sometimes we just want to snuggle ;\) lol!
I was just wonder how other people felt about this - as I know that it is something that pregnancy affects - with fellas being put off by bumps, pregnant ladies loosing there sex drive or it going wild, self image, sexuality, is it okay to do 'it' when baby is in there will he/she know and respond, what motivations people have is it to show/confirm love, or do they think its the same thing, ect
I personally feel its a lovely extra that makes your relationship so much more pleasurable but if the foundations are unsteady - it makes it all very messy! So its good to know there is substance to your relationship rather than just animal attraction because that does wear off over time even if your OH still has the PWAHH factors!!
what does everyone else think?
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Tammi xxxx
27+1 weeks
I suspose I didnt really make it that clear about what i was asking about..
which is do people see a diffrence between sex and love and if so how would you define it of course apart from the physical act? xx
Tammi xxx
27+1 weeks
I don't know who these women are who have a high sex drive when they're pregnant (I think I'm just jealous though) as mine is completely out the window. We do still have sex though at least once or twice a week I would say...The problem is if you're a woman and don't have sex then your sex drive gets lower and lower. The more you do it (even if you're not really in the mood!) the more your body needs it, this is true! Well it's defo true for me anyway.
I cant say my boyfriend has been put off in the slightest! In fact he wants sex all the bloody time!!! I do still enjoy it but it is uncomfortable with a bump and I dont feel all that sexy with stretchmarks etc. xxx
Tammi xxx
27+1 weeks
Simon is REEEAAALLLYY affection and things just lead on from there...
I suspose for me - I know he wants it cause he just pounces! lol and thats lovely! makes me feel i'm still attractive even tho i feel like a hefferlump lol
& ways he shows he loves me is whn he text me after his left for work to tell me that he loves me millions (he leaves when its still dark it being winter!) or when he gives me that look to say 'thats my girl and i'm her man!'
One think i'll say for being pregnant tho is our comunication skills have really improved lol cause sometimes i'm just to tired to you know what and we'll lay there chatting and giggling instead! xx
We've been banned since 14 weeks and I am getting really hacked off with it all. Yes we can do other stuff, but sometimes you just need the full on (bloody hell this is really hard to say with no rude words!) works and we can't grrrr......
As for differentiating between sex and love, I think men can do so a lot more than women, although there are women who are happy to have no strings sex as well.
For myself and my dh though it is one and the same - a way of showing how much we love each other. Luckily (?!) my dh works permanent nights so we only sleep together once a week anyway so it makes the no sex ban easier to deal with (obviously we make an effort to go upstairs in the evening together normally but we tend not to bother at the mo!)
I think we're really lucky because we truly feel like soul mates and are so deeply in love even after 7years that we can deal with what life throws at us - including no nookie for months on end!!!!
I just want to point out however that I did kiss a lot of frogs to get to where I am now - we only met when I was 30 and he was 36 (I had 2 kids and he had 1 by previous!). Just thought I'd point that out before I got a smack in the mouth for bragging!
Karenx
27wks
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