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Big argument - now bump hurts - advice needed!
Apologies - I'm having a bit of a panic. I've written before that I've been having a bit of trouble at work with a couple of people being nasty to me. I've just been in to see my bosses about it and was totally ambushed with unexpected issues raised and from angles I didn't expect! If I'd have known this was going to happen I would have taken someone in with me. I got very upset and very angry and then of course I was silently worrying about my temper hurting/damaging the baby. My bump hurts a bit now - spoken to DH and he said it was probably just because I was tense and had tensed the muscles. Do you think this is the case?
I'm really upset about the incident - there were pregnancy related issues raised which I thought were very unjustified and which conflicted. I am very angry at pretty much all of my work colleagues - they behaved very badly towards me when I came back from a period of sick leave which required hospital treatment. Now I feel they have done the same thing again with the pregnancy - a real slap in the face when you've spent the last ten years with these people and shared many a personal issues together. I don't have many people I can talk to about the pregnancy and this is going to lead to further isolation.
Sorry to post such a rant - I am just so upset by this. Can anyone advise on the bump issue? I've been upset a lot between weeks 8-12 (week 12 this week) and I'd be interested to know if other people had been in the same situation too. Huge thanks in advance, at least I know you girls are kind and lovely xxx
I'm really upset about the incident - there were pregnancy related issues raised which I thought were very unjustified and which conflicted. I am very angry at pretty much all of my work colleagues - they behaved very badly towards me when I came back from a period of sick leave which required hospital treatment. Now I feel they have done the same thing again with the pregnancy - a real slap in the face when you've spent the last ten years with these people and shared many a personal issues together. I don't have many people I can talk to about the pregnancy and this is going to lead to further isolation.
Sorry to post such a rant - I am just so upset by this. Can anyone advise on the bump issue? I've been upset a lot between weeks 8-12 (week 12 this week) and I'd be interested to know if other people had been in the same situation too. Huge thanks in advance, at least I know you girls are kind and lovely xxx
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Second of all try not to get stressed out because the baby get stressed with you....... ive been in one argument where my belly hurt but i dont know if thats because i was so anxious.
If you need ne one to chat to just send me a msg- i may not always have the best advice but its better than bein isolated xx
Second of all try not to get stressed out because the baby get stressed with you....... ive been in one argument where my belly hurt but i dont know if thats because i was so anxious.
If you need ne one to chat to just send me a msg- i may not always have the best advice but its better than bein isolated xx
Tammi xxx
where do you work?
what were some of the issues maybe some of the girls here can help with where you stand or help you prepare your answers? x
where do you work?
what were some of the issues maybe some of the girls here can help with where you stand or help you prepare your answers? x
About the work thing, once you have given yourself a bit of time and space to recover, you should make a list of the issues that arose during the discussion and put your point of view down, and then as tamarabell said, talk to cab or your hr department- someone that is not directly involved who can give you some objective advice. Is there anyone at work who you can trust who you can talk to about it?
Hope things get better for you soon.
I'm a bit nervous about posting specifics as another colleague got in trouble through posting about work issues on facebook. I'll probably delete this post later to be safe for this reason. >
There were other things too but these were the main pregnancy related ones I can remember. Don't think I've got anything specific enough to pursue further but I'm just very upset that colleagues who I previously enjoyed working with have turned on me in this way.
Thanks again for your reassuring replies x x x
[Modified by: secretmama on April 09, 2008 09:10 PM]
Sorry I cant be anymore help but I really feel for you! There are just a lot of horrible, vindictive people out there who see someone vulnerable and swoop in like vultures!!! It would serve them bloody right if you doc signed you off with stress - then they would see what they have to do without you and they have no legal comebacks!!!
I hope this gets resolved for you honey, Love Lee xxxxxx
I had a temporary job for 3 weeks covering someone who was off sick so the other 2 women (one was the manager) who worked there could take some holidays. Anyway, the job involved a lot of heavy lifting, and the manager said oh we'll do all that but if I ever asked her I felt like I got raised eyebrows so I just did it myself...just before I finished the stupid cow said I wasn't coping and it was dangerous working there while I was pregnant! :roll:
What does it matter to your colleagues if you have mentioned the pregnancy once or twice? No doubt you are happy, and if it isnt interfering with your work (which I doubt it ever would) then what is the problem???
Re the time off, they can't complain if you let them know you were going to have time off, and have a doctors note, etc. It is awful that pregnant women at work feel that they have to do more, to make up for going on maternity leave etc, when pregnancy is very stressful on the body even when you aren't overdoing it.
Some people eh.........
Try not to stress as its not good for you and baby. I hope this will turn around soon babe. (sorry i couldnt be much help)
xxx
Im actualy going though a bad patch myself at work, and have reported my manager to HR regarding their treatment towards me since being pg. They have advised me to speak to my union rep which I have done and she has told me to look at 'acas' web site for information as the treatment im receiving comes under the sexual discriminatin act. (don't hold me to that, but have a look under the maternity section aswell) what she also advise me to do is write everything that happens down so that the next time you have a meeting you have evidence to back you up.
Hope this helps with your work issues. Cant help you with your bump sorry, could be that you've been a bit tense as your oh said. If you are still worried speak to your midwife, that's what shes there for.
but i would suggest that you go round to your local citizen advice bureau and get some information on pregnancy rights
i found mine to be very helpful when i was working and pg with my son, every time my boss gave me a hard time about taking time for antinatal classes or mw appointments i`d throw all these leaflets in his face and tell him i was gonna complain to our head office if he didnt pack it in.
i wouldnt worry to much hunni, but just try (an i know its hard with hormones an stuff)to smile sweetly at them and not lose your temper when they are bugging you.
take care
jo xx
I'm a little worried that people seem to be saying that stress does effect the baby - I'm 12 weeks, you don't think I'm still at risk from loosing the baby from an incident like this do you? This is my primary worry.
Thanks again girls x x x
as for LO - babies are pretty resiliant so i should think he/she should be ok, but on sayin that u should take it easy even if its for ur own sake.
hope u get this all sorted and keep us posted
elaine xx
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