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OH struggles..... any advice??
KelB79
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I always thought that the male of the species would be delighted if his OH told him go crazy in the bedroom for the next week.....but I’ve been “blessed” with a terribly sensitive soul who wants our conception to be the perfect romantic moment and who often feels “used” for his little guys 🤷🏼♀️
Now, if I were forceful with the issue I could understand these feelings and be able to back off a bit but I’m stuck here because I genuinely don’t force the issue - I didn’t even used to let him know my fertile days, I’d just make subtle moves at the right time 🤣🤣 But he’d assume that any time I made a move on him it was purely for baby making and push me away 🤷🏼♀️ .... it wasn’t - I do actually enjoy sex with him and I tell him this but he can’t seem to believe it - I’m just not massively sexually confident and forward with it so me instigating anything puts his head in a funny place.... but if I don’t, he often won’t 😫 he goes through phases with sex - he’s a very big thinker and is going through a few things so it can affect his interest. It makes a difficult TTC journey even more tricky ffs 🤦🏼♀️
I now tell him when the window is as it was causing too many rifts but he doesn’t cope with that well either.
Any advice here ladies???
I’m CD7 and trying to chill on the tracking for a mo so going for getting jiggy between days 10-16...,
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Sorry if I'm reading this wrong.
I'd recommend having sex though out the month, not just at that time. Might make your partner relax and make thing less predictable.
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I didn't really track my cycle when ttc because I feel like I'd get obsessed with it. So we just had sex regularly through my cycle. But obviously everyone's situation and history is different, so you have to pick what works best for you..
hence why I started communicating when I would be fertile so that he’d know the other days were about us.
he’s a very sensitive soul.... 😕💜
He’s just a perfectionist I think, wants the big romantic story and can’t accept it can’t be like that every time 🤷🏼♀️
It sounds like he's making a real effort with his health, he's on the right track, just needs to work on the actual baby making part
Good luck with everything.