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So fed up with it all
JLG300
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Hi everyone
its so good to have somewhere to let it all out....
I have a 9yr old perfectly healthy normal pregnancy took 9months from coming off the pill... myself and husband was over weight with this pregnancy but all was ok...
8years we have been ttc with no joy at all we’re a little lighter now but no luck, last year we went through all the gp blood tests and semen analysis and all was ok but because our bmi is higher than they like the doors have been closed I know the answer is loose weight but that’s easier said than done I’m 40 and need to loose a good few stone for any help.... it gets me down so much and then I comfort eat... life has been so crap this last year and that just guts me every month....
my daughter is desperate to be a big sister and gets so bored it breaks my heart
xx
its so good to have somewhere to let it all out....
I have a 9yr old perfectly healthy normal pregnancy took 9months from coming off the pill... myself and husband was over weight with this pregnancy but all was ok...
8years we have been ttc with no joy at all we’re a little lighter now but no luck, last year we went through all the gp blood tests and semen analysis and all was ok but because our bmi is higher than they like the doors have been closed I know the answer is loose weight but that’s easier said than done I’m 40 and need to loose a good few stone for any help.... it gets me down so much and then I comfort eat... life has been so crap this last year and that just guts me every month....
my daughter is desperate to be a big sister and gets so bored it breaks my heart
xx
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unfortunately since writing this I found out 3 weeks ago that I was pregnant but just 5 days later I miscarried and it’s broken me it’s only 2weeks ago and I’m shattered trying to find the strength to continue right now that’s difficult
Thankyou and good luck to you x
Almighty Father, we pray that Your restorative power come upon this woman. Heal her emotionally & physically. Give her the strength to continue & the true peace that only You can give. May You bless her with the fruit of the womb just as you have so many in Your Word & myself. In Jesus Christ mighty name we pray! Amen!!
I pray that you take this to your heart.
Let go & let God!
#What God can not do does not exsist!
With older age egg quality is much more sporadic, hence you will see more miscarriages (or failed fertilisation via IVF).
Although Doctors do say weight loss helps, the evidence is that age has a much bigger effect than weight.
The combined impact of maternal age and body mass index on cumulative live birth following in vitro fertilization - American Journal of Obstetrics & Gynecology (ajog.org)
That basically means you kinda have 2 options, keep trying every month until a good one ovulates or go straight to IVF if you can afford.
I would try not to focus on losing weight, but getting into the best shape / health ever even if your BMI doesn't change honestly. Fun exercise / sport / eating amazing fresh food for 6 to 9 months and just try to be ok that any miscarriage is not your fault, but rather just the body doing its natural thing and rejecting a faulty embryo.
The embryo actually starts to develop at least 4 months prior to ovulation so any improvements you've made will take at least that long before you see some benefits (either naturally or IVF).
Although BMI is linked to many things, at the biological level it means little because if your super healthy at that weight, happy / stress free and eating amazing, all your hormone levels and other known markers will definitely be a lot better.
That's my few words of wisdom from all my experience.