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Pregnant without the help of mum
Hi is anyone else going through pregnancy without their mums?
I have a 14 month old son and just found out im expecting my second. I have a wonderful partner and a lovely home but feel so let down that my mum doesn't get involved. She only lives a couple of miles away from me but drinks heavily, so very rarely bothers with my son, in fact shes only seen him 5 times! It seems like every time i speak to her we end up arguing because she leaves my son out. I have a neice whos 3 and my mum adores her. my brother and his partner split up b4 she was born so my mum says she bothers more with her because my son has a stable environment. I dont think this is right. She even let my neiece sleep at her house and bought her lots of presents,on my sons birthday as she didnt want her to feel left out. (She bought him a top and spent less then 10 minutes with him) I feel so lonely because of it. Sad i know but surely this should be the time that my mum helps me?
I have a 14 month old son and just found out im expecting my second. I have a wonderful partner and a lovely home but feel so let down that my mum doesn't get involved. She only lives a couple of miles away from me but drinks heavily, so very rarely bothers with my son, in fact shes only seen him 5 times! It seems like every time i speak to her we end up arguing because she leaves my son out. I have a neice whos 3 and my mum adores her. my brother and his partner split up b4 she was born so my mum says she bothers more with her because my son has a stable environment. I dont think this is right. She even let my neiece sleep at her house and bought her lots of presents,on my sons birthday as she didnt want her to feel left out. (She bought him a top and spent less then 10 minutes with him) I feel so lonely because of it. Sad i know but surely this should be the time that my mum helps me?
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I am in the same situation. Just found out I am having my third but cant even tell my mum.
Her partner and me dont get on, she has always had a drink problem but he makes it 100 times worse. Also she does like your mother only its with my 2 children. Last year and this year she bought birthday presents for my son(whos the eldest and from a previouse relationship) and nothing for my daughter 2 months later on her birthday. Her and her bloke seem to have enough money for booze everyday, but not enough to get my lo a present. It also makes my hubby feel awkward.
So like you I will be going through this pregnancy without her. Having said she wasnt there much for the other 2 anyway.
Take care and just consetrate on your lo and pregnancy,
Kerry xxxxx
Ive since had another baby (his 2 now) and im pregnant again now. It was hard and still is some days but you learn to cope.
The best thing is my baby is due around the 10th anniversary of my mom passing away and I just know that things will be ok and she will be watching over me. I also have a feeling the baby will make an apperance on that day.
Sara 25 +3
My mum dotes on my siblings and their kids, but I am the black sheep of the family since my parents are divorced and shunned cos I still have my Dad in my life. I think I will be forced to chose whether my kids have a grandmother or grandfather - not fair.
I agree it is sad but what is happening with you and your partner should be the most important thing.
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i am luck tho that i get on with my mother in law and she steps in to do motherley things with me when i havent got my mum around.
sara
Really feel for you all that have lost your mum and can't imagine how hard it must be esp at this special time....My mum is still alive but lives 500 miles away but hasn't really had anything to do with me for a long time...she couldn't cope with me at birth and my auntie raised me when i was first born...she passed away 6 years ago and i miss her terribly and really wish she could see my first child when its born. The last gift she gave me was a photo frame and told me to leave it empty until I had a child and to put their first picture in it. I'm so happy that i can now fulfill her wish.
I wish you all the best of luck with your pregnancys and know that everybody that loves you (past and present) will be watching over...xxx