insensitive to keep firsdt visit to just hubbie and daughter
im due in 5 weeks and know i have to stay in hosp for at least 48 hrs as i have group b strep. but anyway was thinking that i would love if the first visiting time could just be me and hubbie and our wee girl? this is obviously a very special time for us and i wouldnt want all other people butting in when she is meeting her wee brother for the first time. i know hubbie can be there most of the day but she will only be allowed at proper visiting times.
my mum will be looking after her while im in labour but i really want hubbie to just go and watch her from afterwards til i come home. i hate the idea that my mum or someine will tell her about the baby before e get to, ie, its name etc.
how can we make sure we set this up wothout hurting anyones feelings? does anyone else feel the same or am i being too insensitive to others who will want to see the baby asap. ie my paretnts and hubbies paretns ?
there are 2 visiting sessions each day so they would still be able to see us ont he first day its born (deoending what time hes born tho). what do you think?
my mum will be looking after her while im in labour but i really want hubbie to just go and watch her from afterwards til i come home. i hate the idea that my mum or someine will tell her about the baby before e get to, ie, its name etc.
how can we make sure we set this up wothout hurting anyones feelings? does anyone else feel the same or am i being too insensitive to others who will want to see the baby asap. ie my paretnts and hubbies paretns ?
there are 2 visiting sessions each day so they would still be able to see us ont he first day its born (deoending what time hes born tho). what do you think?
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i had an em c sec and had half the family staring at me mere hours after the op. Didnt make me feel very good, or let me rest like i should have been.
they should understand what youre aiming for as its your children first, them second. its not insensitive at all.
xxx
id like my mum and dad to visit alone and oh parents to visit later on or at home.
thing is, its my mum and dads 1st granchild and my ohs parents have around 10 of them!
therefore id really like my mum and dad to be able to enjoy the experience without ohs mum taking over (which she will)
i feel mean but i really want my mum, dad and lo's first meeting to be about them
xxx
Hubby and I intend on being quite clear about giving people slots for visits and letting them know we'd like them to spend time just with us and the baby, and then it's someone else's turn for the same.
The only problem with this sterling plan is that my OH's family lives a good 3 hour drive away so I guess they're hoping for an extended visit... might suggest they go stay at my parent's house! Hahaha!
because of the group b strep baby will be on antbiotics (perhaps) so he might be a bit grumpy anyway (thought maybe i could use that as a good back-up excuse too). thanks everyone, imglad im not being insensitive and that im not the only one who feels the same x
I think people will understand, its a very special time when your kids are meeting for the first time plus it will be alot easier for your daughter to understand what is going on if there is only you and your oh.