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disappointed with Gp and midwife....
hi girls
i only foound out im expecting on tues, so went to see my doctor and explained how worried i am, as i had a mmc in sept and found out at the 12 week scan, and i asked if i could have an early scan, he said prob not! im so annoyed! i cant wait til 12 weeks and the same thing might happen again, that they tell us our baby has died! he told me to ring midwife to make booking in appointment, i did and she said its too early as im only about 4 weeks gone, and i asked her about an early scan as id had mmc etc and she said they prob wont do one well thats really pissed me off, the nhs are crap!!!!!! that means im prob going to have to pay privatly, i dont think i can wait till 12 weeks and wory about hearing those dreaded words! i know getting an early scan doesnt mean everything WILL be ok, but i know that after 8 weeks the chance of mc goes down....grrrrr :x
i only foound out im expecting on tues, so went to see my doctor and explained how worried i am, as i had a mmc in sept and found out at the 12 week scan, and i asked if i could have an early scan, he said prob not! im so annoyed! i cant wait til 12 weeks and the same thing might happen again, that they tell us our baby has died! he told me to ring midwife to make booking in appointment, i did and she said its too early as im only about 4 weeks gone, and i asked her about an early scan as id had mmc etc and she said they prob wont do one well thats really pissed me off, the nhs are crap!!!!!! that means im prob going to have to pay privatly, i dont think i can wait till 12 weeks and wory about hearing those dreaded words! i know getting an early scan doesnt mean everything WILL be ok, but i know that after 8 weeks the chance of mc goes down....grrrrr :x
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the nhs is crap sometimes! my friend had a mc at 12 weeks and then when she fell pg again was offered an early scan as the hospital do it as standard so she had an 8 and a 12 week scan.
maybe ring the hospital directly to ask their policy?
I know its easy for me to say, but dont get too distressed by this though.
take care
xxx
ashy xx
ashy x
Also - I would definately wait until at least 7 weeks, as you may not see anything at all if you go too early.
If you can afford it I would pay for a private scan, if you search for this on the intranet there are loads of them out there now for between ??50 and ??150.
There's no point really going for a scan before at least 7 weeks and if you can wait 8 weeks. I had an early scan at 6 weeks due to bleeding and it was really too early to see very much, have been for 8 week scan today and finally saw the heartbeat what a relief.
I would get your booking in appointment sorted with your midwife and discus it with her - i am sure that she will refer you to epu. Infact i think most doctors would refer you.
You could also ring the nurse and ask for 2 blood tests to check hcg - dont even ask the doctor.
Good luck and congratulations x x x
julisum glad you got to hear the heartbeat, that must be amazing!
when i had my mc the nhs wernt very good, they didnt explain anthing with me and there was no follow up appointment after the mc to see how i was doing or anything!!!!
ashy x
Make a fuss, be in tears and be really upset that your doctor has treated you so badly.....
Good luck and I am sure that this time it will all go so well for you, just try and relax and enjoy it xxxxx