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Can't get excited about being pg, keep scaring myself
Hi all, can't really tell hubby about this and I know how great you girls are.
I'm nearly 5 weeks pregnant, everything seems to be ok, the slight pulling and cramping I had last week has pretty much gone away. However, I'm not allowing myself to get excited, I've begun to almost expect things to go wrong. How on earth does anyone get through the first 12 weeks of worrying? I just keep letting my mind wander and thinking - "should I have done that? What if I have a miscarriage now?" I was outside chatting to my SIL the other day while she was having a cigarette, and once I'd got home I spent hours rushing to the loo to check I hadn't started bleeding because I put the idea into my own head that I might have done something that would hurt my baby.
Please help me stop this cycle, I want to be excited and positive, but I won't let myself! I've got absolutely no reason to suspect I'll miscarry, I suppose it's because it's out of my control. It's starting to keep me up at night though.
I'm nearly 5 weeks pregnant, everything seems to be ok, the slight pulling and cramping I had last week has pretty much gone away. However, I'm not allowing myself to get excited, I've begun to almost expect things to go wrong. How on earth does anyone get through the first 12 weeks of worrying? I just keep letting my mind wander and thinking - "should I have done that? What if I have a miscarriage now?" I was outside chatting to my SIL the other day while she was having a cigarette, and once I'd got home I spent hours rushing to the loo to check I hadn't started bleeding because I put the idea into my own head that I might have done something that would hurt my baby.
Please help me stop this cycle, I want to be excited and positive, but I won't let myself! I've got absolutely no reason to suspect I'll miscarry, I suppose it's because it's out of my control. It's starting to keep me up at night though.
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My only advice is to try not to stress too much about what you do as if you do miscarry (and i'm sure you wont) it wont be down to anything you have done. Furthermore some bleeding in early pregnancy seems to be pretty common but if you do bleed get it checked out. As i've said I bled several times but one of my friends has never bled in her pregnancy.
All you can do at this stage is try to take care of yourself, eat healthily, dont drink/smoke and enjoy being pregnant !
Dunno if I have helped to put your mind at rest or not.
MrsW 38+2
I also think i'm going to have to chat to hubby about it soon, I only didn't because I don't want him to worry too - about either of us - but I also don't want him to think there's something wrong.
Thanks for the advice, girls! x
I'm exactly the same, am worrying myself silly at the moment. every twinge, just want to hide in a bubble until after 12 weeks....
At 10+4 I got a doppler which was the best thing ever and gave me so much reassurance. Otherwise I called my twin whenever I had pains who reassured me that she had them too (and now has healthy 14 month old)
Just take it one day at a time. When you are worried remember that pains are normal, bleeding can be fine and you have more chance of things being fine than of them going wrong.
Try to keep busy too. Organise nice things to do so you are distracted a bit.
Could you have a private scan to break the time up a bit? After seeing hb at about 8-9 weeks (when it becomes a foetus) the risk of mc drops lots so once I had passed that point I felt a tiny bit better.
Just remember that if mc is going to happen no amount of worrying or wishing it won't happen will change it. So you're better to try to stay calm and enjoy it as much as you can.
Hope the time goes quick for you hun. Once I got to 12 weeks I did relax a lot.
xxx (15+5)
chloe 37+4
xcx
ARGH....HELP!!!!!