Apologies for depressing post...anyone had more than one MC?
Hi
We found out yesterday at my dating scan that we have had a second MMC. I had a question after a comment the consultant said and wondered what the real likelihood is of it happening again?
He advised us to have a break of at least 3 months as he felt there was a link to getting pregnant again soon after a MMC. We lost our last baby in Oct but didn't get pregnant again until Jan 09 so we did have a break between.
I have read there is no link, and at the most 1 cycle is adequate, but not essential. I was also told we were no more likely to have a second MMC. I just wondered what other peoples experiences were?
How many people went on to have a normal pregnancy? I feel it is all very well having statistics but if it is you going through it they become irrelevant. I feel I have a 50/50 chance of it happening again, as it either will or won't. It's still early days but I found the last pregnancy so stressful that I am very scared of getting pregnant again. But we so want our own family.
Sorry for rambling, I am still in shock and am struggling to accept I am having to go through this again.
Thanks for your experiences, and sorry if I have offended anyone.
Lilou x
We found out yesterday at my dating scan that we have had a second MMC. I had a question after a comment the consultant said and wondered what the real likelihood is of it happening again?
He advised us to have a break of at least 3 months as he felt there was a link to getting pregnant again soon after a MMC. We lost our last baby in Oct but didn't get pregnant again until Jan 09 so we did have a break between.
I have read there is no link, and at the most 1 cycle is adequate, but not essential. I was also told we were no more likely to have a second MMC. I just wondered what other peoples experiences were?
How many people went on to have a normal pregnancy? I feel it is all very well having statistics but if it is you going through it they become irrelevant. I feel I have a 50/50 chance of it happening again, as it either will or won't. It's still early days but I found the last pregnancy so stressful that I am very scared of getting pregnant again. But we so want our own family.
Sorry for rambling, I am still in shock and am struggling to accept I am having to go through this again.
Thanks for your experiences, and sorry if I have offended anyone.
Lilou x
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I have had 2 mc's and am now 10+5. Plus Mrs_e who I talk to lots had 2 and it now about 23 weeks pg.
Woomummy and Saint Bernie both had 3 and went on to have healthy pg's after that.
Hope you ladies don't mind me name dropping - but your stories have given me lots of hope so I just wanted to pass on my knowledge.
I really feel for you hun, it's awful you are going through this again. Especially after everything looking so good last week. But I truly believe that you will have your baby one day.
Big hugs
I am so so sorry for your loss Lilou. I had a MC in June at 6 weeks and it was heartbreaking. We got pregnant after 2 more months and I am now 30+5 weeks. Can I ask what gestation you were at for both MCs?
Don't give up hope - so many of us on here have had the same thing happen and gone on to have successful pregnancies. I know doctors won't try to find 'reasons' for them until after 3, but its worth discussing this with your doctor / consultant.
Thinking of you loads xxxxxxxx
i wish you all the luck in the world in trying and succeeding again. personally even thought 3 months (cycles) can seem like so long it could be worth the waiting just to give your body a rest so hopefully you wont have to go through a mc/mmc again. i also saw a programme where a woman had several mc's - she saw a nutrition person who tested to see what her body lacked and she found that her body was really low in the particular minerals or something that are needed to sustain a pregnancy. she changed her diet to incorporate these and went on to have a healthy pregnancy.
hope things go better in the future for you and your partner! xx
My first MMC was picked up at just over 10wks and think it stopped developing between 7&8 weeks. This one I had a perfecty normal livley bean at 8+4 and then lost it between then and 10+1. We have gone private with this MMC as we found the NHS system quite traumatic last time. My ERPC is booked for Friday. I am hoping as we are private we may get more help this time. The consultant said they would analyse the retained products.. or my baby as I think of it!
Thanks for your replies. I don't know where & when I will gather the strength to TTC again. When i was still pregnant I had been asking myself the question if it happened again would I try to get pregnant again as I have found this pregnancy so stressful and torture waiting to get to the 12wk mark, we were so nealry there!
It is so depressing.
Lilou x
Claire
31+3
This is my story i guess - i had 2 healthy pgs in 2003 and 2005 which gave me my little boys - in the beginning of 2007 we started ttc for no 3 - i got my first bfp in nov 07 and mc at 5wks - i had no af and got another bfp dec 07 and mc a few days b4 xmas....oh went away in jan so we started ttc in feb when he got back and had another bfp in may 08 - again i mc at 5weeks - we where then referred to the mc specalist on 31st july (my 26th bday) - me and oh had bloods done to check for genetic mutation which all came back clear and they booked me for scans once my af arrived - i was going out due to my bday 2 days later and af was due the following weds so tested just in case and got another bfp - i rang the clinic 1st thing monday morning and they started me on weekly preganyl injections which i did myself at home...had a scan at 6wks which showed a hb - carried on with the jabs til 12weeks and everything was fine - im now 37days from delivery with no 3. I just want you to know that you shouldnt give up hope, it will happen hunny - id def ask your doctor about pregnayl - il never know if thats what helped me this time, but im pretty sure it had something to do with it xxxxx
I think its still quite common to have two in a row, I felt like it was never going to happen for us after the second one but it did and there are lots of other people on here that have had two also xx
I was 7 weeks when i bled and 9 weeks when i fully miscarried. I remember the terrible hurt and shock so really feel for you. This was in July last year, had my first period on 15th August and BFP on 9th September, we allowed one period so as to allow for dating and emotional healing.
I am now 27+1 and (touch wood) all seems to be going well. I can`t relax with this one though and wont until hes here (and probs never will again)
Thinking of you and keep your chin up. Sometimes it seems like there will never be light at the end of the tunnel but there always is
Katy xx
Firstly - very sorry to hear about the heatbreak you are going through, it really is a sad time......but try to hang on in there....
I just wanted to add my situation in the hope that, as with the other replies, you can keep positive. I mc my first pg at 15 weeks, then had two succesful pgs, and had two boys. I mc twins in nov 07 at 12 weeks, then fell pg again in Feb 08, and mc again at 6 weeks, and then really did give myself a break for 3 months and started a very healthy eating routine (Zita West wrote an amazing book about pre-conception and diet), and fell pg again in May 08, and i am now sat in my living room with my week old son, who is just amazing!
So i send you all the luck in the world for a healthy pg in the near future, and i'm sure you will get a vialble BFP very soon.,
Take care
xxx
Thanks again,
Lilou x