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Is anyone else on there own and pregnant?
Hiya everyone. Having a really crap day today! Me and my OH have split up for good this time and ive moved back to my mums, i really dont know how im going to cope with this baby on my own. It was never what i wanted. I have some wonderful friends and family but it isnt the same. As if im not worried enough about stuff as it is! Got this to worry about now too! Im so stressed! It doesnt help that now ex oh! Lives 100 miles away. Things are so shit
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Don't be getting down thinking you won't be able to cope on your own coz you will- I was 18 and on my own and people say to me now 'how on earth did you cope so young on your own with a baby'- I'm not saying its always easy but its not impossible either and at least you have your mum for support.
Try to find out about local mum and baby groups in your area for when you have lo coz its always good to have support in that way- there may even be one specifically for young mums/single mums which would be even better.
I hope this helps coz I do know that when a break up is fresh you feel a bit raw and emotional and like there is no way forward sometimes but in a few weeks you will wonder why you felt like this and maybe even feel that you are better off this way.
I was admitted to hospital yesterday with abdo pains after a really stressful argument when i ended it all forever.
I find comfort in the fact that whatever struggles we face now me and my kids will be better off without that waste of space . I can't believe i have wasted the last 10 years on him. He is an alcoholic and i think the only thing that stopped him seriously hurting me was the fact that im pregnant.(i am due in 32 days)
Got to go my kids have started to wake up breakfast to do.
Take care.
louise
And he wants to spend the rest of his life with her. So over time I know things will get better. But for now let me say. Nothing hurts more than feeling unloved...
Helen x
I'm not in same situation but I'm sure with the support of friends and family you'll do fine, it's much better to bring a child up yourself than in a relationship that's not working. I think it's a really good idea to join mum and baby groups and have a network of other mums for support. Like others say you'll have your baby all to yourself and I'm sure will have a really special bond.
xxx
you may be hurting now and feel you cant do it, but you can, believe me, take care x
I know what you mean about been scared. At least you have your Mum, I dont. She doesnt want to know due to who the father is, currently he doesnt want to know either, which is a good thing for me as he isnt what you would call a stable suitable partner. I have a wounderful big sister and friend who are been great supporters. There are times I cry but when I feel "harry the bump" move I know I will manage. Dont ask me how but I will and so will you.
Keep your chin up, even if it sometimes means you are putting on a brave face.