Positive thinking forum?
This may sound like a daft thing to ask for but I think it could really help me at the moment. I have recently become a little over anxious about ttc and it hasn't done me any good. I have also been really down and tearful. I really want to have a baby, but I think I'm not helping myself. Everyone keeps saying relax, but its hard to when you really want something as badly as I do (as we all do!)
Anyway, I've decided to make a few lifestyle changes to improve my chances and help me refocus. What I was interested in, is positive thoughts to keep in my head when I find that A/F has arrived again. How does everyone keep going? What do they do to stop themselves from falling into the pit that I have just climbed out of? I thought that maybe I could create a forum of happy thoughts and positive vibes that you can come to when things aren't working out. Just an idea!;\)
Anyway, I've decided to make a few lifestyle changes to improve my chances and help me refocus. What I was interested in, is positive thoughts to keep in my head when I find that A/F has arrived again. How does everyone keep going? What do they do to stop themselves from falling into the pit that I have just climbed out of? I thought that maybe I could create a forum of happy thoughts and positive vibes that you can come to when things aren't working out. Just an idea!;\)
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I always try to think that there is always people out there that have got it worse than I have. I have had one m/c in january, although I have already got 2 children. It took me a long time to concieve my 2nd baby and the wait was hard. At the time I had just lost my grandad and I don't think the grief and stress helped.I was just about to be refered by the doctors for help when I fell naturally.. Now I think I am luck to have what I got and even though I really want to get pregnant I try not to think about it to much...hard I know.
Coming on here talking to people has also helped me.
Try and stay postitive and keep smiling.
All the best
Anna
Yes what a good idea. Very hard sometimes isn't it? I mean you try not to get hopes up each month and therefore be realistic but when you get af or a neg your world falls apart for a few days until next time. I try and think i am not (ie this month) but know that secretely i am thinking i could be in the back of my head. So i can't win as unless get a + will be upset. Even then is not foregone conclusion as had two + in Jan only to get - days afterwards and a bleed , so early chemical preg/mc.
Hmmm don't know what to suggest. Think trying to focus on other things good. Felt guilty as not given up sat night drinking but determined not to put life on hold. Could be months or heaven forbid longer and so would have made myself miserable for no good. Besides will be hard enough without booze for 9mths!!! (Promise i won't moan)
So i think not to make too many changes and go with the flow (forgive the pun) for a bit. Easier said than done i know as i will find it diff to follow own advice.
Unless we have been told we cannot physically conceive we should be positive and even if we can't we would just cope....we are women, that's what we do.
Hope that helps xxx
Keep thinking happy thoughts everyone- cheers for the replies already.
Lily defo get the bike - I'd bought one & started riding & running every other day and so had dh until our surprise!
Long time no see, not been on here for a while as it was getting me down for the reasons you have said. Popped on tonite and had to say hello. No BFP yet but as others have said, I take each month as a way of gatting used to my body and stopped testing early.
Positives this week so far
>Finished my NVQ, started it 2 years ago
>The sun was shining today, can tidy the garden at the weekend
>Painted my bedroom
>Settled at work on my new ward
>Booked holiday with parents to Norfolk in July
I have been willow weaving today in the sunshine and have had such a fabulous day. I can't believe how well and positive I feel. Am feeling very hopeful about the future. I'm sure everything will work itself out. Still intending to buy the bike, but am also intending to get out into the garden and plant some springtime flowers to brighten the garden this weekend. Also, this week is nearly over now and it will soon be the weekend-hooray. Also had a drink for the first time last night since New Years Eve, had given up any form of alchol (as ttc) don't really drink much, but have been passing up at social events. I had a Bailey's in the bath, so nice it was too..........
Took DH out to dinner last night which was lovely, haven't been out for a while so it was really nice. Had a house viewing today so all in all everythingall is looking positive. Hope you're are all having a great weekend too. Love Lilypingu x
I SORT OF LOOK FORWARD TO MY PERIOD BCOZ I THINK IF IT DOES COME I WILL GO OUT AND BUY A NEW COAT (RETAIL THERAPY) IF IT DOESNT COME THEM IM HAPPY THEN IM GOING TO BE A MUM.
LIKE IM DUE NX WEEK 4 A PERIOD AND I HOPE IT DOESNT COME BUT IF IT DOES IT MEANS I CAN GO THE WEST MIDLANDS SAFARI PARK IF IT DOESNT COME THEN I DONT GO BCOZ MY MUM SAID THAT ITS NOT A GOOD TO GO ON THE RIDES ;\)
WEIRD I KNOW BUT I HOPE U UNDERSTAND ME (