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Guilty about stopping breast feeding
Hi Girls
My lo is now nearly 11 wks old i breastfed for first 5 weeks but eventually stopped as he would feed from both breasts every hour and then he would want more, i would put him back on the first breast and he would pull away screaming still hungry. I got some organic formula in just in case and he would gobble it down after being on both breasts. I soon realised that i may not have been producing enough milk, breasts felt not full so put lo on permanent formula.
however though cannot get over guilt of stopping and feel i stopped too soon and also in hindsight i wonder whether his screaming was wind.
does anyone else feel like this, i know i gave him a good start but here i am 6 weeks on still getting upset about it and i feel really embarrassed at baby club when i bottle feed when there are other mums breast feeding
Lisa xx
My lo is now nearly 11 wks old i breastfed for first 5 weeks but eventually stopped as he would feed from both breasts every hour and then he would want more, i would put him back on the first breast and he would pull away screaming still hungry. I got some organic formula in just in case and he would gobble it down after being on both breasts. I soon realised that i may not have been producing enough milk, breasts felt not full so put lo on permanent formula.
however though cannot get over guilt of stopping and feel i stopped too soon and also in hindsight i wonder whether his screaming was wind.
does anyone else feel like this, i know i gave him a good start but here i am 6 weeks on still getting upset about it and i feel really embarrassed at baby club when i bottle feed when there are other mums breast feeding
Lisa xx
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There seems to be a lot of pressure on Mums to breast feed but it really isn't for everyone. As you say you have given him a great start but please don't feel guilty about stopping - he's still getting fed, isn't he!?!
As for being embarrassed at baby club, well quite honestly it's no-one elses business! You are doing the best you can. I bet he's a happier baby if he's feeling fuller and that should be enough to reassure you that you made the right decision.
Please don't be upset about it!
Tracey
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when i read your post it could have been me that wrote it hun. i too stopped at 5 weeks as i felt joseph wasnt getting enough and screamed. i too gave him organic formula to top up not realising that this would decrease my milk and baby was trying to build up supply etc. i switched him to formula but it broke my heart at the time. i was eaten up with guilt for weeks and still really regret it i miss it terrible and could still cry now. i cant wai t do it again, joseph is doing really well but i have had probs with constipation, colic, bad wind etc and in hindsight he was more setled on breast, its hard not knowing what to do for best but have to learn not to beat ourselves up about it xxx
Anyway i've been using my electric breast pump to express my milk and combine it with the odd formual feed throughout the day and night. I'm really worried that by doing this i'm causing him harm and will only end up, upsetting his little stomach. I no he's only a newie, but what do people think about what i'm doing..... Should i keep mixing the feeds or just go with the formula milk for every feed???
Also I no that my breast milk as only just come in and my boobs where engorged with milk.... which was good as i was able to express a fair bit of milk, now i feel that my boobs don't have as much milk, i've been expressing every 4 hours or so, will my boobs keep up the pace if I do it this way???
Anyway i've been using my electric breast pump to express my milk and combine it with the odd formual feed throughout the day and night. I'm really worried that by doing this i'm causing him harm and will only end up, upsetting his little stomach. I no he's only a newie, but what do people think about what i'm doing..... Should i keep mixing the feeds or just go with the formula milk for every feed???
Also I no that my breast milk as only just come in and my boobs where engorged with milk.... which was good as i was able to express a fair bit of milk, now i feel that my boobs don't have as much milk, i've been expressing every 4 hours or so, will my boobs keep up the pace if I do it this way???