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sex after having a baby
hi everyone this is on a personal basis just wondered if there r any other mums haviong the problem i am which is since having my son 20 weeks ago i really find it hard to get close to my husband as a normal bloke he wants to get intamate but im just not interested at all im so tired that when i go to bed i just want to sleep as my lo wakes 3/4 times a nite so as you can imagine i havent had a good nites sleep for 5 minths now its really getting me down as he is always going on at me about it saying i dont love him i keep telling him its not that im just extremely tired
so please advice needed xx sarah
so please advice needed xx sarah
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Don't worry though I think there is a new mum alive who wouldn't back you up and say that exhaustion is a huge intamacy killer. But it will get easier as lo sleeps more and more over time.
Sometimes I feel like sex earlier in the day when I have more energy but by bedtime I am exhausted and sex is deffinately the last thing on my mind!
I agree with the give and take suggestion - you can have sex if you get up and do the night feeds!- love it. My 2nd is due in Feb and will definately be remembering this one.
It is worse however, if you just dont feel like sex even when you are not tired. It is really hard to turn it on when the desire just isnt there. Women and mens are definately wired differently though arent they. I just cant imagine making my oh have sex with me just because I want to and all they way through knowing he wasnt enjoying it and wishing I would hrry up! Men don seem to notice this or if they do they shut it out of their minds and are focused only on the end result, so to speak!!
What is the answer, I definately havent a clue! xx
Is there anyone out there in the same boat as i feel very alone and sinking................
As for not wanting it during the early days, I was the same until my lo started sleeping thro the night. Once I was getting a proper night sleep then my sex drive came back! x x x
2 b honest ive kinda given up and sort a got used to it,but u gotta b careful not to start fantasizing if u get attention from other guys,which is what hap 2 me last thurs on a girls night out.
I was totally behaved and even my oh would v been proud,but i carnt deny i didnt enjoy d attention.....................