Will i or won't i?
hello
i hope someone out there will help me. My son is now 11 months old. as i am packing his little clothes away i am beginning to wonder if i will want another baby in the future. My friends baby is now 16 months old and she is 7 months pregnant with her next. I am enjoying my son so much i am wondering if i will feel a new baby in a year or 2 will get in the way of our relationship (not the best way of putting it i know). I fear that a new baby will take me away from him when i should be playing with him. I am spoilt with my son, he has always slept through the night, is never a great crier and is always happy and chatty, i adore him so much.
the thing is, i have so much love in me and i love babies,i am wondering if my body will tell me if/when i am ready for another baby. i am an only child myself which was great growing up. i know i dont need to decide now but am getting worried that maybe i wont want another baby when in my head i would ike another one later on (ive just turned 31). mu husband is not much use. he is a great dad and husband but says he doesnt know what he'll want in the future.
does anyone know what i mean and have either gone through this or going through it?
many thanks
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i hope someone out there will help me. My son is now 11 months old. as i am packing his little clothes away i am beginning to wonder if i will want another baby in the future. My friends baby is now 16 months old and she is 7 months pregnant with her next. I am enjoying my son so much i am wondering if i will feel a new baby in a year or 2 will get in the way of our relationship (not the best way of putting it i know). I fear that a new baby will take me away from him when i should be playing with him. I am spoilt with my son, he has always slept through the night, is never a great crier and is always happy and chatty, i adore him so much.
the thing is, i have so much love in me and i love babies,i am wondering if my body will tell me if/when i am ready for another baby. i am an only child myself which was great growing up. i know i dont need to decide now but am getting worried that maybe i wont want another baby when in my head i would ike another one later on (ive just turned 31). mu husband is not much use. he is a great dad and husband but says he doesnt know what he'll want in the future.
does anyone know what i mean and have either gone through this or going through it?
many thanks
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good luck. take care.xxxx
Many thanks and kindest regards
My LO is only 10 weeks old and family members have started asking us when we're having the next!
When hubby & I had previously discussed children we always talked about having 2 but now Spencer is here my hubby says he's happy with just 1. I don't understand, Spencer is such a good baby & is already sleeping through the night. I know there's a good chance that the next (if there is a "next") will be a nightmare but its a "risk" I'm willing to take.
I wouldn't want another for at least a year but hubby's sudden change of heart has thrown me. I don't want to pressurise my hubby into something he's not happy with but equally I don't want to resent him for "denying" me another child. Its early days and hubby's opinion will probably change but its so confusing!!! Oh, I don't know.
After the birth of our first hubby and i decided that we had our healthy daughter and would stick there during our first few years as a family of three we travelled and our lo girl now nearly ten was our world could not imagine feeling this much love for another.
One morning i decided that i wanted another baby our dd was about to start full time school within the year and i wanted her to have a brother or sister so along came baby number two after a month of ttc...
After the birth of our second dauhter i wanted needed to add to our family again but nature had a different view and it took a full four years five month till little Archie was born he has fitted into our family fantastically we could not be happier. The age gap does have its advantages as well as its disadvantages but all three of my children are happy and that is all that matters...
From someone that could only ever see herself with one child i now have three all planned. They are all loved as much as each other. I would love to have a fourth but hubby feels our family is complete and i do agree..
Good luck with your choices Vicky
I got 'caught' pregnant with my daughter when my son was 2 and I was TERRIFIED!! I was desperate for a girl but worried at the same time as to how my son wud cope and if I wud have a favourite. I had too buy everything new
I decided when my daughtercame along I was happy with one of each sex and would have no more so I gave her baby stuff to charity.
I am now 25weeks pregnant (planned this time!!!) with number three and have had to go out and buy EVERYTHING AGAIN
I pack all Lewis stuff away and then think ok if i have another baby - i want it to be a girl so none of this stuff is going to be any use any way - but i dont want to part with it or sell it on ebay lol, its the sentimental value lol! I would like another baby but am just going to leave it am not on the pill or anything but saying that sex has been quite non excistant since Lewis was born (am just too tired lol) and if it happens it happens!