Back 2 Work ;-(
I actually don't have to return to work until April 2008, but I am already worried sick about it! I do NOT want to leave my little girl. I work 55 hours per week & have to return for the money. My step mum has offered help once I return as has my mum in law, who I am starting to feel resentful towards as I don't want to be away from my little girl & have her being bought up & sharing all of her fun moments with someone else. I am grateful that they've offered to help, but I would absolutely love to spend every waking moment with her until she is pre-school age. Does anyone else feel like this??
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It seems so unfair but I guess we sometimes have to do what's best for our precious ones (
my little boy is 8 months and i am due to return at the end of jan, i am absolutely dreading it! reece doesnt sleep and i dont know how i will fit in work on top of everything else i do, i dont seem to have time to spend an hour cleaning, let alone anything else, and like you (and every mum i am sure) i am so scared of missing those precious moments. my work have treated me like poo whilst i have been off thou and that hasnt helped. if i do go back (and its a big if at the moment) i will be cutting my hours right down. we dont have that much cash now as i am on unpaid maternity but you can only spend what you have got.
to me, working 55 hours a week is far too much, there have been times in the past where i have done 60 (pre baby) and been exhausted, i cant imagine doing all the baby things on top of that. if i was you (and please dont think i am being patronising) i would not work that amount of hours now. is there any other help you would get if you earnt less? aparantly the cab can tell you what you would get in benefits according to your salary, so you could give them different scenarios and see what you would be entitled too. good luck, jo xx
I am lucky as my work have been quite good about what hours I will work and whilst I will be going back full time I will be doing 7.30am til 3.45pm which means I will still have abit of time with baby after work. God, I don't know how you do 55 hours, that must be awful. Maybe you could look into reducing your hours, or maybe start looking for a job with more child friendsly hours????
I hope we have made you feel better knowing there are other mums in the same position xx
I am self employed and had planned to take about 6 months off and then return part time, this didn't work out unfortunately.
I work with my husband and our friend and business partner very sadley died of a bleed on the brain when I was 7 months pregnant, this resulted in me working the day before I went into labour and returning to work when my LO was 3 weeks old, luckily being self employed has enabled us to change the business and work only mornings and I find this a nice compromise, I am very lucky that both our mums are here to help so I do not have to worry about leaving Maddie with a stranger and as she has suffered with colic or milk intolerance (yet to be confirmed) I must admit the change of scene was quite nice.
I think that you always manage to adapt to the situation and being away from your baby really makes the time together so precious and special, although I would not want to be away from her all day mornings seem to be just right.