Miserable sorry bit long
Morning everyone. The other day on my way home from work, id got my daughter with me as usual in her pram and nothing i did would comfort her. She was screaming the bus down. This was something she does on a regular basis. My dd has quickly learned that crying gets her- everything! Id spoken to my hv about it she said i needed to let her cry sometimes aslong as she wasnt crying for a good reason, hungry etc. I think my girl was crying coz she wanted to get out of the pram but it was packed and id got no room to move, so in the pram she stayed. After a while i over heard this lady calling me a child abuser saying she would report me. It led to an embarrasing arguement and left me feeling rotten inside. Its been on my mind since. Ive always tried to be a good parent im not perfect but i try. Was i wrong to let her cry? I had offered her food and drink rubbed calgel on her gums stroked her hair and her hands.. Had i of b3n in a cas she would have to be srapped in crying or not so what did i do that deserved to be called a child abuser? I can only think is that i chose to ignore her crying which was the advice i was given by hv.
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dont let it get to u hun, if we gave in to our kids everytime they screamed im sure people would be complaining about their"spoilt"behaviour out and about,lol we cant win!
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people can say hurtful things, i had an old biddy walk past me the other day whilst my lo was having a minor paddy and loudly said to her friend some people don't deserve to have kids if they can't manage them! i told her i can manage her jus fine i'm managing to stand her watching my daughter get very upset because she can't communicate wat she wants to say and i' doing this without loosing my temper and hitting her or yelling as so many people do who can't MANAGE their kids!
ur not alone and the fact that u were concerned for ur baby proves u r not a child abuser!
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anyway just thought i'd share that
your not a bad mum and weren't doing anything wrong. you couldn't have got her out the buggy on a cramp bus anyway so don't feel bad hun. i'm glad you stood up for yourself though!!
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That lady obviously had little to do to say something ridiculous like that to you. Your concern over what was said shows that you are obviously a very caring mother just trying to do the right thing for your daughter. If we all started giving in to our wee ones everytime they cried what would they not grow up into. My daughters 2 & she loves to throw a wee tantrum when we're out but shes not long realising it doesnt get her anywhere. As for interferring old biddys maybe someone should have taught them some manners when they were younger & to respect parents trying to do the right thing for their children. You usually ind people like this have more problems closer to home than they were care to be reminded about
Take care & dont let that silly woman get to you
Hilary x