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Worry taking away special time?
Hi ladies I was just wondering how many of you are feeling so worried about things going wrong that its taken all the specialness and fun out of pregnancy.
I really thought I would be so excited about this but I just feel so scared it will all go wrong I darent get excited at all and really dont want to tell everyone.
I have a son who is ten and had a mc 9months after him. Now I have been trying for a baby since August and am 7 weeks today but just feel so depressed at not being able to enjoy it I really didnt think I would feel this way.
Every twinge worries me, any ideaas how to get over this or when it might start to ease up?
I really thought I would be so excited about this but I just feel so scared it will all go wrong I darent get excited at all and really dont want to tell everyone.
I have a son who is ten and had a mc 9months after him. Now I have been trying for a baby since August and am 7 weeks today but just feel so depressed at not being able to enjoy it I really didnt think I would feel this way.
Every twinge worries me, any ideaas how to get over this or when it might start to ease up?
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I know what you mean, it does take away from the excitement a bit, I guess we just have to smile & look on the bright side - I'm sure everything will be fine for you hun x x x
Perhaps all worry and upset until we get lo out safely, think there is so much pressure aswell as it feels like its all your responsibility until that point.
x x x
i just dont feel pregnant at all....ive had a few cramps, and im constantly thirsty so im weeing a lot but other than that nothing. no sore boobs, sickness, tiredness.....anything!
ive only told my OH and best friend (as shes a couple of weeks ahead of me!) i dont want to tell anyone until i know everythings ok, and i can be a little excited about it. hoping some symptoms will start soon then maybe ill feel more reassured! im only 6 weeks gone so guess its just too early....
wishing everyone all the best with their pregnancies!!
I didn't have it as I thought that & thought it would make me worry excessively if I got a high-risk result. Which is unlikely with my age (19) but not impossible in any way. And I wouldn't want an amnio either.
But now I'm wishing I'd had it, just to be prepared! There are some conditions where they recommend a termination cos the baby wouldn't survive to birth anyway, and I would rather have 1 at 16 weeks then 20+ weeks.
Sorry I'm making this thread very morbid ( But I feel that way at the mo. Convinced something's wrong. Oh keeps reassuring me, but I can't stop worrying about this stupid scan! I didn't have a 12 week scan and that don't help!
And i did go to the loo every 5 mins to check for any bleeding!
But after a while i just thought whats meant to be is meant to be and if its gonna happen then panicking about it isn't going to help, if anything it will put more stress on my body!
Obviously i still worry something will happen to him, now i'm 35+6 and worrying that he will be ok during the birth! its natural but try to relax just because you have had one MC doesn't make it anymore likely you will have another!
Good luck
Samantha 35+6
I just wanted to say that the worrying doesn't completely stop but does ease up a lot as you get towards the later stages. This is my first and the time dragged to start with...waiting for the 13wk scan, then the 20wk scan, then waiting for movements etc. But once I got to about week 25 I've felt a lot more relaxed as you feel so many movements so you know your little one is hopefully doing OK and you've got through all your scans OK. I would also recommend buying a doppler because listening to my baby's heartbeat reassured me on so many occasions during those early stages - I wouldnt have been without it!
Love n hugs xx