who lets their lo sleep in your bed?
Hi my daughter is 2 next month and we recently changed her cot to a bed. now and then she wakes up early and gets into our bed, because its too early and im so tired i give in and let her. but if its 6 or 7am ill get up and take her in front room. it doesnt bother us too much that she gets in our bed but i cant help thinking that it shouldnt be allowed.
I know i could just be more strict and put her bk into her own bed but i love cuddling up to her.
should i be more strict, is it a problem?
who else does this or the opposite?
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I know i could just be more strict and put her bk into her own bed but i love cuddling up to her.
should i be more strict, is it a problem?
who else does this or the opposite?
xxx
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We do let our 2 year old in with us sometimes too.
We also have a 6 week old baby and we are so tired with him waking through the night that it's easier to let the older one in with us if he wakes up and we can't settle him quickly, he's started having what we think are nightmares so it can take a while to calm him down if we are trying to get him to stay in his bed. If we take him in with us he can be back asleep in a couple of minutes.
Like you I worry that we shouldn't be doing it as he will get used to it, sometimes at bedtime he will say he wants to get in mummy and daddy's bed, I feel bad for saying no as he knows he can normally get in through the night so doesn't understand why he can't always.
It does get a bit crowded in our bedroom some nights, there's the baby in the carrycot at the side of the bed, and then in bed there's me, hubby and our toddler, we don't need any heating on a cold night, it gets warm with the amount of people in there!!
I wouldn't worry about it too much if it's not a regular thing. If your lo starts to expect to get in and is waking up with the sole purpose of getting in your bed then I would try to get her back on track to staying in her own bed and taking her back when she comes in just so your not stuck in the sane situation a couple of yeats down the line!!
Hope that helps
Kelly x
At 7 months, we moved house and needed some building work, so she ended up in our room for a few weeks and unfortunatley this made the transition of going back to her own room even harder. She will now settle in her own bed (after lots of cuddles and sometines rocking), but still often ends up back with us!
Saying all of that, the last few nights she has slept through but I shouldn't count my chickens just yet!
As soon as she is ill though, she just wants to be with us and when we are knackered, its just easier to give in..... I know its naughty of us, but we need sleep too!
(Don't let the HV's hear us say this!)
[Modified by: Mum_of_Grace_Mae on December 14, 2007 02:59 PM]
I'm the same as u in that it doesn't really bother me as i like to cuddle up to her and we have a big bed anyway.
I do think thou it is importnant that they don't reliy on u to sleep which our daughter doesn't she's now back in her own room and most days sleeps through but then on some occasions she comes in with us in the middle of the night!
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