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maternity leave
hi,now this is gunna be a long story lol
im 12 weeks on tuesday!and for the past 3 weeks ive been off work ill, as i have very bad sickness and just physically cant do any thing which is getting to me now
also i have a very bad cold at the min so im so tierd n feelin really crap
but i have to go bk to work on saturday as i cnt afford to stay off any more
but i really dnt feel ready to go back to work yet i havnt got the energy to walk upstairs never mind do a full days work
but wen i go back i gotta go thru some paper work and decide wen i would like to take maternity leave???
now that just confuses me wen would be best to take it? im due 15th july!
i really hope things get better soon im just havin a ruff time at the min
any advise would be great bec x x
im 12 weeks on tuesday!and for the past 3 weeks ive been off work ill, as i have very bad sickness and just physically cant do any thing which is getting to me now
also i have a very bad cold at the min so im so tierd n feelin really crap
but i have to go bk to work on saturday as i cnt afford to stay off any more
but i really dnt feel ready to go back to work yet i havnt got the energy to walk upstairs never mind do a full days work
but wen i go back i gotta go thru some paper work and decide wen i would like to take maternity leave???
now that just confuses me wen would be best to take it? im due 15th july!
i really hope things get better soon im just havin a ruff time at the min
any advise would be great bec x x
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I think it is all personal choice as a lot of women work for longer so that they have longer pay when baby is actually here. I think i would have done that if i were in a different job. I think you have to give your employers around 6 weeks notice of when you are due to leave but other places are later.
It is a lot down to personal choice but I am sure you are still allowed to take maternity leave from 29 weeks, also what i did thinking back i saved up my holiday and took the 2 weeks previous off too so therefore left at 27 weeks. Word of warning though boredom does set in quite quickly!
Hope this helps
xxxx
Philippa
22+3 x x x
When you finish up will be totally personal to you, but remember you might regret not having that time with new baby later on. You need to try to stop worrying just now and hope you start to feel better soon. xx
Try not to get too down about it all, the first few weeks are the worst but you will more than likely suddenly start feeling much better. I wasn't being physically sick during the first 12 weeks but the smell of food was too much for me and I really struggled to eat. I ended up losing over half a stone in weight which apparantly is pretty common during the first few months of pregnancy. Once I got to just over 12 weeks my energy levels started coming back and the nausea was less constant. By 20 weeks I felt fantastic and really had the 'blooming' feeling everyone talks about. So try not to give up hope, I know the first few weeks are rubbish but you are more than likely to start feeling good again soon.
As for work and your maternity leave, I worked as a HR Manager when I lived in the UK and generally speaking Companies like to talk to their female employees about what their thoughts are re maternity leave partly so you are informed about what you can take and partly so they have an idea of what cover they are likely to need. Its nothing to be too suspicious about and it is very common for ladies to change their mind towards the later stages of pregnancy and ask to start it earlier.
If pay isn't important to you then you are in a good position to be flexible with when you start your maternity leave. I started to feel more tired and struggled sleeping because of the bump at around 32 weeks. I worked up until 37 weeks but was probably ready to stop at 36! Everyone is different so it is hard to advise, the time does go quicker when you are working!
I'm 40 weeks today and as you can see from the time of my post sleep is getting nearly impossible I am so uncomfortable!
Good luck with whatever you decide and keep your chin up, it will all be worth it!
Liz xx