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The real deal...
Hey Hey lovely ladies,
I am 9 weeks and 3 dayds roughly (haven't had my dating scan as of yet) I am over the moon that I am pregnant and have loads of support, I'm in a stable relationship and have lots of friends and family with a young family around me, I have accepted the pregnacy really well and look forward to having a child.
now comes the but...
I thought it would feel like I have magic in my tummy.. but instead I have strech marks on my boobs belly and thighs (I am using bio oil), I have a sick feeling all the time and do sometimes vomit, I have a banging head ache that I just cant seem to shift, My boobs have grown to an E and are sore and swollen and i cant even bare my clothes brushing up off them, I am consitpated dispite eating a pile (excuse the punt) of fruit and veg daily as well as drinking loads of water/juice, my bum is now bleeding when i go (sorry i know too much info) which is making me anxious, I have so much wind and I cant help it slipping out :roll: , I am having awful nightmares that make me feel disturbed by them even when I am a wake , I am shattered, I swear I am showing already and people are telling me I cant possibley be (but you know your own body right) I am worried about getting really over weight and not being able to shift it again and about my body changing, I have really bad stiches in my sides and tummy, I have lost my appitite and am getting 'told off' by well meaning do gooders telling me I have a responcibility to eat properly I am just not hungry and the idea turns my stomic I do eat when i feel hungry. I am unusally angry which isint something that I normally am normally I'm very placed.
I just feel like I'm purely an incubator for this child I am not aloud to eat certain things l like, like cheeses, or cured meats, or unpasterised dairy products, or runny eggs, or drink alcohol or caffine, or fatty foods, everything that passes my lips I am really aware that it must have a heathy benifit for the child.
I feel like my body is not my own. I'm not aloud HOT baths which really relax me, I have people telling me ' you should enjoy this pregnancy there are people who can't get pregnant!!' (Hello!!! I have PCOS and I was trying for well over 2 years & they think I don't know this!!)
I'm not saying I dont want to be pregnant of course I DO! I'm just saying I'm suffering a bit and I thought it might be a bit more plesurable. (
I am also worried that thing won't go right and I'm worried about accomadation and about the strain on my relationship as well as the lack of social life. I know this sounds selfish but though it was far better to express my emotions here rather an bottle them up.
I know that these fears are emotional driven and unfounded, I have had very strong pregnacy lines in all the test ive take and don't have and deep concerns that things are going 'wrong' spose I'm worried becuase I have PCOS and was told id be more likely to miscarry. The accomadation will sort its self out and if not we have two perfectly good homes with either set of parents for the time being, and as for my partner we have been together 5 and a half years and have been thru loads to get her were strong and very much in love and both loving that were going to have a child.
Thanks for listening to my rabberlings....
I am 9 weeks and 3 dayds roughly (haven't had my dating scan as of yet) I am over the moon that I am pregnant and have loads of support, I'm in a stable relationship and have lots of friends and family with a young family around me, I have accepted the pregnacy really well and look forward to having a child.
now comes the but...
I thought it would feel like I have magic in my tummy.. but instead I have strech marks on my boobs belly and thighs (I am using bio oil), I have a sick feeling all the time and do sometimes vomit, I have a banging head ache that I just cant seem to shift, My boobs have grown to an E and are sore and swollen and i cant even bare my clothes brushing up off them, I am consitpated dispite eating a pile (excuse the punt) of fruit and veg daily as well as drinking loads of water/juice, my bum is now bleeding when i go (sorry i know too much info) which is making me anxious, I have so much wind and I cant help it slipping out :roll: , I am having awful nightmares that make me feel disturbed by them even when I am a wake , I am shattered, I swear I am showing already and people are telling me I cant possibley be (but you know your own body right) I am worried about getting really over weight and not being able to shift it again and about my body changing, I have really bad stiches in my sides and tummy, I have lost my appitite and am getting 'told off' by well meaning do gooders telling me I have a responcibility to eat properly I am just not hungry and the idea turns my stomic I do eat when i feel hungry. I am unusally angry which isint something that I normally am normally I'm very placed.
I just feel like I'm purely an incubator for this child I am not aloud to eat certain things l like, like cheeses, or cured meats, or unpasterised dairy products, or runny eggs, or drink alcohol or caffine, or fatty foods, everything that passes my lips I am really aware that it must have a heathy benifit for the child.
I feel like my body is not my own. I'm not aloud HOT baths which really relax me, I have people telling me ' you should enjoy this pregnancy there are people who can't get pregnant!!' (Hello!!! I have PCOS and I was trying for well over 2 years & they think I don't know this!!)
I'm not saying I dont want to be pregnant of course I DO! I'm just saying I'm suffering a bit and I thought it might be a bit more plesurable. (
I am also worried that thing won't go right and I'm worried about accomadation and about the strain on my relationship as well as the lack of social life. I know this sounds selfish but though it was far better to express my emotions here rather an bottle them up.
I know that these fears are emotional driven and unfounded, I have had very strong pregnacy lines in all the test ive take and don't have and deep concerns that things are going 'wrong' spose I'm worried becuase I have PCOS and was told id be more likely to miscarry. The accomadation will sort its self out and if not we have two perfectly good homes with either set of parents for the time being, and as for my partner we have been together 5 and a half years and have been thru loads to get her were strong and very much in love and both loving that were going to have a child.
Thanks for listening to my rabberlings....
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I am not saying that everything will stop your boobs will probably stay the same or get worse. HOWEVER the hormones certainly do even out and you will hopefully feel a little like your old self.
The one thing that never changes is wellwishers giving you all the wanted and unwanted advice you can ever wish for, my advice would be to nod smile and say yes or no where you think is appropriate!
You are completely normal and certainly very sensible for releasing these feelings rather than letting them fester.
I hope things improve for you asap
xxx
[Modified by: gem1 on December 26, 2007 09:17 PM]
[Modified by: gem1 on December 26, 2007 09:17 PM]
i couldnt enjoy the pregnancy till the sickness had passed.
i think everyone who is or has been pregnant has felt the same.
im sure it will pass and you will be blooming in no time hun,
good luck with the rest of your pregnancy and take care xxx
Hope ur feeling better soon
Philippa
22+2 x x x
The worrying won't stop for any of us, but hold on in there, you should start to feel better in some ways, and yes, I am sure it is worth it in the end. It is a pretty amazing process our body is going through.
xx 17+ 5
Cheer up hun - the only thinkg to do is grin, bear it, think about the outcome and come on here for a moan! P.S. it does get slightly better for a bit in the second trimester!
Laura (26 weeks) xxx
I think I just felt People were thinking cheek of her moaning when she wasn't even sure she could get pregnant! which is prob more again to do with my emotional state rather than what they are really thinking as everyone has acctually been really supportive!
I'm having very VERY horrific Night mares which are disterbing me and I'm not sleeping to well which I think to be honest makes everything far far worse...
Has any one else had horrid nightmares while pregnant? Id give examples but I wouldnt want to upset any one else!
Thanks for your kind words tho I really needed them! xx